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Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: gifted |Time : March 19, 2019, 07:29:25 AM
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If you were ever a teenager, you’ll remember the concept of bases. There’s always been a bit of debate about what constitutes which base, but broadly speaking, first is kissing, second is digital sex, third is oral and fourth is full sex.

It always seemed odd to me that oral sex came before penetrative, as if it were a lighter or lesser thing.
As far as I’m concerned, having another person’s face in the most intimate, private area of your body is an enormously trusting and pretty nerve wracking thing to do.

While I’ve been home with guys I don’t know well, and been perfectly comfortable giving them a blow job, the idea of them going down on me? Literally unthinkable. Which might, in part, account for why men still tend to have more orgasms than women. 
I had been with my husband (then boyfriend) for months before I felt comfortable with it. Even now I need to be relaxed, unrushed and to have showered in the last 4-6 hours.

And some of us never reach that stage at all.

Jessica, 24 from London told me that she’s developed an aversion to it.
‘I didn’t always hate it’ she told Metro.co.uk.

‘My very first orgasm was from oral. But after a few years of being sexually active I developed an aversion against it. It’s too submissive, I feel bored and uncomfortable and disgusted and just want to push him away.
‘I think I might have a problem with tongues in general because I also really hate being tongue-kissed and wet kisses anywhere on my body make my skin crawl.

‘Some guys I’ve dated have thought it was weird and told me it just hasn’t been done “properly” but that’s the thing – I’ve had it done properly, I’ve had it done horribly, and I hate it all the same! I don’t mind giving oral though, and I do enjoy sex otherwise.’
Olivia, 27, also from London feels similarly, telling Metro.co.uk:

‘I need to get out of my head to enjoy sex. Oral sex puts me firmly in my head. The “spotlight” is on me, and I don’t know what to do. I just lie there, hoping he’ll get bored soon.
‘There are other problems to. In my experience, it’s frustrating. They’re never anywhere near the clitoris, or if they are, it’s only just long enough to tease, but not to deliver the goods. It’s often just done in a “Let’s get it out of the way, then we can get back to me, but you can’t say I’m selfish” kinda way.

‘Eventually it became a judgement thing. I start awarding them mental points for effort (it’s the litmus test for whether they’re selfish or selfless lovers). Even if it does nothing for me, it means a lot that they tried, especially if they ask me how I like it, and adapt. But that hardly ever happens. Maybe once in 15 years.

‘I also feel very judged myself – I’ve sensed men’s frustration that what was easy with their ex doesn’t work on me. They’ve even voiced it sometimes. But they don’t change tack, just abandon the job, leaving a vague cloud of blame, and a sense of me being broken, or faulty.’
There’s a big difference between the person you’re sleeping with wanting to be able to give you sexual pleasure, and that person pressurising you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. Just because they would be giving the oral sex, doesn’t mean it’s any different from trying to demand to receive it.

Anyone who strongly presses you to let them go down on you probably isn’t in it to make you feel good, but because they want to prove a point or demonstrate their virility.

Not wanting oral sex is a personal choice. If you’re unable to enjoy it because you’re too self conscious, you think you take too long to orgasm or you feel guilty about that level of attention? That’s your call, but with the right partner those aspects might change.
If it’s because you’re freaked out by it, you don’t like the sensation of the whole concept turns you off? Well then that’s your choice. Having a great sex life doesn’t always had to mean doing everything on the sexual-menu, and no-one should ever make you feel obliged to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, even if it’s supposed to be something ‘nice’.

https://metro.co.uk/2017/07/25/why-do-so-many-women-still-hate-getting-oral-sex-6804124/

Re: Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: gifted |Time : March 19, 2019, 07:30:44 AM
This is one of those never talked about information.
Still very true.

Re: Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 19, 2019, 07:32:48 PM
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‘My very first orgasm was from oral. But after a few years of being sexually active I developed an aversion against it. It’s too submissive, I feel bored and uncomfortable and disgusted and just want to push him away.
‘I think I might have a problem with tongues in general because I also really hate being tongue-kissed and wet kisses anywhere on my body make my skin crawl.

‘Some guys I’ve dated have thought it was weird and told me it just hasn’t been done “properly” but that’s the thing – I’ve had it done properly, I’ve had it done horribly, and I hate it all the same!

Absolutely ain't NOTHING WRONG with you girl!
It is not you; it is them! By "them" I mean people who have somehow tied sex to oral sex as inseparable.
Where did that perversion come from anyway?
I understand that human beings may have copied certain sexual behaviors from animals, but does that make humans dogs or goats that must first lick female genitalia before they even get an erection?
Damn thing is so pervasive these days and very annoying.  >:(
So girl, you ain't alone in HATING it.  8)  ;D

Re: Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 19, 2019, 07:40:22 PM
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Anyone who strongly presses you to let them go down on you probably isn’t in it to make you feel good, but because they want to prove a point or demonstrate their virility.

Either way, they do it for selfish reasons.
Some men are very very very close to being dogs or other lower animals.
Some of them can't get erection without them "going down" on the woman first.
A greater number can't also get an erection without the woman giving them oral sex.
A normal (and undamaged) human being should be able to easily get an erection (for men), or get aroused (for women) enough to have normal healthy sex.
The perverts have taken over the world, but there are still normal people out there even if they are minority.  :s

Re: Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: princepoint |Time : March 19, 2019, 10:26:33 PM
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faulty.’
There’s a big difference between the person you’re sleeping with wanting to be able to give you sexual pleasure, and that person pressurising you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. 




Hmmmm one man's food is another man's poison


Re: Why do so many women still hate getting oral sex?

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : March 22, 2019, 04:57:26 AM
Oral sex?

I've always considered it absurd. And I don't think that'd ever change.  ::)

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