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I am unable to reach orgasm through sex with my wife

By: gifted |Time : June 23, 2019, 06:19:00 AM
I masturbated five times a week before getting married, and can still bring myself to orgasm that way, but through vaginal sex it doesn’t happen at all

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I got married two weeks ago at the age of 25 to my wife, who is 29. I started masturbating at 14 and did so at least five times a week leading up to getting married. Through masturbating I could bring myself to orgasm within three minutes. However, through vaginal sex, it doesn’t happen at all and she has to finish me with oral sex or a hand job. I’m not sure what’s going on – whether it’s in my head, or something else. We want kids eventually, but I’m having issues reaching orgasm inside her. Please help me.

You are far from the only person in the world who is having difficulty switching from self-pleasuring to partner sex. Sometimes this is because a man has become used to pretty firm or even rough stimulation; no vagina will be able to provide a similarly high-friction sensation. Your task is to find ways to bridge these two qualitatively different experiences, and to learn to resensitise yourself.

Consider forgoing masturbation for a while and make some creative choices, allowing your wife to pleasure you manually or orally up to a certain point, then switching to intercourse at your “point of no return”. Expect to fail at this a few times, but if you ejaculate incrementally closer to her vagina, eventually you should be able to achieve it. And most importantly, try to let go of the notion that three minutes to ejaculation is a fine thing. Instead, take your time. Make pleasure (both yours and hers) rather than ejaculation the goal for you both.


https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jun/18/i-am-unable-to-reach-orgasm-through-sex-with-my-wife

Re: I am unable to reach orgasm through sex with my wife

By: dayan (M) |Time : July 02, 2019, 07:22:04 PM
Mehn...
This man has BIG problems, and most of it is restlessness.
Let's take them one by one...


Re: I am unable to reach orgasm through sex with my wife

By: dayan (M) |Time : July 02, 2019, 07:26:03 PM
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I got  married two weeks ago at the age of 25 to my wife, who is 29

This man got married just TWO WEEKS and he is already complaining of having problems?
Problems -ANY problems- at this stage of marriage is simply too early to be considered serious.
Unless he never even knew the woman he got married to before the commencement of the marriage.
I'm struggling to see beyond this first issue, but I shall continue!  ;D

Re: I am unable to reach orgasm through sex with my wife

By: dayan (M) |Time : July 02, 2019, 07:46:36 PM
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I started masturbating at 14 and did so at least five times a week leading up to getting married.

Mein Gott!  :o

25-14 = 11(years of masturbation)
11x52(weeks in a year) = 572 weeks (from 14 to 25 years)
572x5 (masturbation days in a week) = 2860 masturbation days!

Dude had 2860 days from 14yrs to 25yrs.  :o

And we don't even know how many times in one day that he masturbated.

Clearly his problem is masturbation, and he needs to first bring it under control, and then minimize it, and then stop it somewhat even if not entirely.

He has had enough!

My fear for him is that the wife he married may not be the type to help him get out of this.
People make this mistake often and I will elaborate more on this...

People lie to themselves a lot about their own sexuality, and one of the most devastating consequences of such lies is that they choose the wrong wives for themselves.

If this man had the right wife for himself, I doubt that he would still be masturbating this way.

When people want to pick wives, they pick women that others approve of or they choose based on societal approval.

For example, most men in Nigeria would want to marry "a responsible woman". Some even go further to want to marry virgins or girls with very little sexual experience.
The result is that yes, the wife would be "responsible", but she would also be clueless about deep sexual things, the kind that this man needs to drag him out of the hole of masturbation.
Only a woman with deep sexual experience can create the environment, in the marriage, to force this man to abandon masturbation.

Some women come naturally that way, and age has nothing to do with it.

Other women would still be sexually naive and inexperienced even in their forties and fifties.

So, a man who has this type of sexual problem cannot be helped by sexual recluses.
Deep stuff.

Wish him luck!

Re: I am unable to reach orgasm through sex with my wife

By: alagbe003 (M) |Time : July 02, 2019, 09:52:03 PM
Mein Gott!  :o

25-14 = 11(years of masturbation)
11x52(weeks in a year) = 572 weeks (from 14 to 25 years)
572x5 (masturbation days in a week) = 2860 masturbation days!

Dude had 2860 days from 14yrs to 25yrs.  :o

And we don't even know how many times in one day that he masturbated.

Clearly his problem is masturbation, and he needs to first bring it under control, and then minimize it, and then stop it somewhat even if not entirely.

He has had enough!

My fear for him is that the wife he married may not be the type to help him get out of this.
People make this mistake often and I will elaborate more on this...

People lie to themselves a lot about their own sexuality, and one of the most devastating consequences of such lies is that they choose the wrong wives for themselves.

If this man had the right wife for himself, I doubt that he would still be masturbating this way.

When people want to pick wives, they pick women that others approve of or they choose based on societal approval.

For example, most men in Nigeria would want to marry "a responsible woman". Some even go further to want to marry virgins or girls with very little sexual experience.
The result is that yes, the wife would be "responsible", but she would also be clueless about deep sexual things, the kind that this man needs to drag him out of the hole of masturbation.
Only a woman with deep sexual experience can create the environment, in the marriage, to force this man to abandon masturbation.

Some women come naturally that way, and age has nothing to do with it.

Other women would still be sexually naive and inexperienced even in their forties and fifties.

So, a man who has this type of sexual problem cannot be helped by sexual recluses.
Deep stuff.

Wish him luck!
You spoke well bro.

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