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Every woman needs a vibrator – Toke Makinwa

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 28, 2020, 07:29:11 PM



By Sylvester Kwentua

Nigerian media personality, Toke Makinwa, is no doubt a lady who knows the things to do to get her fans talking and it has worked for her over the years. After all, she is an influencer and probably makes money anytime she talks.

Despite Toke’s glitzy and glamorous lifestyle, a number of ladies and men seem to love to hate her as they disagree with some of her interesting opinions.

Just recently, the media personality took to social media to speak on a topic that a lot of African men and women shy away from, and this has to do with sex, pleasure and the most intimate part of their bodies. She posted a video on her Instagram page admonishing every female to get themselves a sex toy.

In a short clip shared on Instagram, Toke said that she feels every female should have a vibrator and that, it is crazy if they do not have even one in the year 2020. Speaking further, Toke asked how ladies would know what their body needs if they do not have a vibrator. She also said that she has three types she would recommend ladies to get and she also mentioned their names.

Source: Vanguard

Re: Every woman needs a vibrator – Toke Makinwa

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 28, 2020, 07:33:01 PM
This is one of those topics that I handle in DETAIL, with long posts. The reason is because the issues involved are long and deep.

On this issue, I would only allow myself to be led by the truth.

So, please come back here to check my response ...

Re: Every woman needs a vibrator – Toke Makinwa

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 29, 2020, 05:39:50 AM
My speculation (yes it is!) here, is for instances that involve NORMAL persons, and by “normal” I mean a spectrum ranging from “a little to the left, and a little to the right” of the sex equilibrium.

So, would a normal person need to OWN a sex toy?

I have a physical and a spiritual answer to this question.

The short answer is  … it is a personal business, but comes with outcomes as the case may be.

It is preferable to always have access to a sexually compatible human partner, because sex is a form of an exchange  -it is NOT, and should not, be a one way street.

Scientific opinion would suggest that, contrary to the popular assumption that only the male can “inject” (for lack of a better word) the female with something; the male also “collects” something from the female.

The science of this is deep and complicated, and have not yet made it into the mainstream of scientific opinion. However, anyone that has ever engaged in unprotected sex knows that somehow the male also collects something from the female. That is why diseases, for example, can be passed from female to male and vice versa. Fluid exchange is the essence of sex.

Engaging in sex, without such exchange, somewhat makes the process an “abortive” process – an incomplete process. One research on this issue suggests that BOTH persons lose out in protected sexual encounters.

According to Prof Stuart Brody, people who engage in protected sex run the risk of mental health problems.

The following excerpt from an article details the whole thing:

People who tend to use a condom during sexual intercourse appear to have worse mental health than those who do not, according to Professor Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland in Paisley.
His findings were based on a survey of 111 Portuguese men and 99 women, who were asked questions about their sex lives and their state of mind.
The results suggested that using condoms negates the mental health benefits of what Prof Brody termed "evolutionarily relevant sex".
Those who used them were more likely to suffer from depression, suicidal tendencies and be emotionally immature. The results were the same regardless of whether a person was in a stable relationship or not.
In a letter to the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, Prof Brody wrote: "The more often they have sex without condoms, the better their mental health."
He added: "Possible explanations for the interference of condoms with the health benefits of penile-vaginal intercourse include the blocking of antidepressant and immunological agents in semen and genital secretions [and] reduced sexual satisfaction and intimacy."
Speaking to The Independent, the American-born academic defended his decision to highlight the research – even though it was not "politically correct" – in the cause of science.
He said: "I don't want to let anything get in the way, whether it's political correctness, or religion.
"Evolution is not politically correct, so of the very broad range of potential sexual behaviour, there is actually only one that is consistently associated with better physical and mental health and that is the one sexual behaviour that would be favoured by evolution. That is not accident."
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/5970731/Unprotected-sex-better-for-mental-health.html



Keeping in mind that protected sex also protects against unwanted pregnancy and diseases,  another  expert  Dr Meston still had this to say about women and sex:

(Women) “who had sex four times a week, on average—were perceived to be seven to 12 years younger than their actual age. Regular sex promotes the release of hormones, including testosterone and estrogen, which can keep the body looking young and vital; estrogen has also been shown to promote soft skin and shiny hair,” - Meston, ph. D.
Source: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/health/a19982263/health-benefits-of-sex/


University of Paisley researchers in the UK had people keep diaries that included sexual activity. Then they asked participants in the study to give speeches, in order to induce acute stress. Those who had penile-vaginal intercourse during the days preceding the speeches were less stressed and their blood pressure returned to normal faster than those who had engaged in oral sex or masturbation.

Said Professor Simon Crowe, head of neuropsychology at La Trobe University:

"The physiology of sex is very complicated and one we know surprisingly little about given how much it affects our behaviour. But the different stress responses between penetrative sex and masturbation suggests the biology of one person affects another.


Having sex with a rubber partner is nothing short of masturbation, and guarantees an incomplete process.

Yes, the user may orgasm as with a human being, but still the process is abortive – a  waste of energy.

It is on that basis of scientific opinion that one should not encourage the use of sex toys.
It is a form of self abuse – like masturbation.

Only in instances whereby the opposite sex is really unavailable would sex toys be somehow excused.

Fact is that people have raised their personal defences and “thorns” so much that finding sexually compatible partners these days is like finding a needle in a haystack. It is part of the “hell of modern life”.

Spiritual Side

On the spiritual side, I often speculate that these toys may be possessed by wicked spirits which simply use these toys as vector (or piggy-back) to possess the user.

I may be wrong, and the rubber may just be nothing other than rubber, but you really never know.

So, I’d stay away from them, just in case.

I also speculate that it is a form of “idol” worship, because the toys take on roles of a being.
People start falling in love with the “graven image” of sex. Not good IMHO.


The Only Viable Solution?

Find that man or woman that you connect with on a sexual basis, and NEVER, repeat NEVER accept anything less. And stick to them! Unless of course you want to give up sex entirely for whatever reasons.

The only real opportunity you get to build yourself to the level of spiritual and physical maturity/freedom is to be in a sexual relationship with a person of your sexual level/compatibility.

It has NOTHING to do with race, age, national origin, height, skin color, income level … or anything else.

Sex toys are physical demonstration of sexual frustration, and a form of cry out for help.

The tragedy of contemporary thinking about relationships these days, is that it only provides railroads that are really based on trial and error, leaving people occasionally frustrated, stranded, and having to resort to the use of sex toys. This can destroy their self confidence (as does masturbation), and introduces all types of spirit husbands and wives into their lives with various degrees of damages in tow.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the preferred idea is to avoid use of sex toys, and only use it  (if ever) only as part of your normal sexual engagement with a physical human being. Use it to complement, rather than substitute, the human sexual partner in your life.

Rather than wasting time accumulating sex toys, spend that time to get a human partner.

One opinion I came across described sex as a form of “battery” or an energy accumulator, complete with positive and negative nodes.

The male organ is the positive node, while the female organ is the negative node of this human battery.

And what happens during sex proper is that energy flows from the male to the female, and from the female to the male cyclically and vice versa, as in a battery (or accumulator).

Any other sexual process that does not set up such positive-negative energy flow is unnatural and can create problems for those involved and for broader society.
 
Obviously it logically follows that people should be very careful/mindful of the persons they choose to have such exchange with, which is why sex is a very powerful thing.

This is a speculative opinion, but a very powerful one!

It is due to such opinions that I have become more interested that people engage in normal sex rather than be forced into abstinence. Abstinence should not be coerced, should be from personal choice/preference, rather than an imposition.

Forced abstinence causes natural disruptions and deviance that create more problems for society.
The use of sex toys is a form of de facto partial abstinence. That is why people who rely on them can stay without human partners for years on.

However, neither they nor society is well served by that. 

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