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What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : June 14, 2019, 05:09:53 PM
Talking about life without relationships ain't in any way complete. Talking about relationships (between opposite gender who ain't related) without sex ain't complete either. However, age gaps tend to have effects on the "performance" or the "romance" between lovers. Here's how the age difference can affect the life and sex in relationships. If you have an opinion or an experience to share, we will appreciate it; kindly use the reply button.

4-Year Age Difference

Life: Is there a difference between seniors and freshmen? Not really. Four years might make someone seem a bit more experienced, but you’re actually peers.

Sex: Whether you’re 20 and they’re 24 (or you’re 88 and they’re 92) you won’t feel this age difference in bed.

Awkward? Rarely. Except for those occasions when they act like a baby; then it’s like you’re the older one but that doesn't happen much, really.


10-Year Age Difference

Life: There’s a huge difference between 16 and 26, but once you hit your 30s, a ten-year age gap isn’t such a big deal. You probably listen to and watch a lot of the same stuff, but also expose each other to new stuff. They might be more settled. You might be figuring stuff out that they already dealt with. If you’re both mature and supportive, this can be easy and compatible.

Sex: Your stamina should match up. Your physical appearances are still pretty similar. They might have been doing it longer, so you might learn a few new tricks.

Awkward? Maybe. Like when they’ve never heard of your fave cartoon from when you were little because they were probably in college studying quantum physics and having sex on the beach.

 
20-Year Age Difference

Life: You two are close enough in age where you can share interests and feel like-minded, but the reality is you are from different generations. This can be exciting at first, but your maturity and energy levels may be very different. It’s great that they can usually bring more emotional and financial stability to the relationship. Works best if you want—and enjoy—the same things in life.

Sex: It may not be a race to the “O” any more. They make time for sensuality, exploration, and your pleasure. But you may start to notice the first signs of their physical aging, like a few gray hairs. Down there.

Awkward? Sometimes. Especially when you’re out at a club with the best DJ in the world, but you don’t dance together because their moves are old school, but not in a good way.


30-Year Age Difference and Older

Life: This can feel like you’re from different worlds. (Or like you’re dating a parent.) Friends and family may not accept it, especially your partner’s kids if they’re the same age as you. Works best if you’re an old soul, but be aware that this age gap has its complications.

Sex: Hello, Viagra. Also, they may not be as flexible, fit, or energetic as you, so the action might be less rigorous. (Skip the crisscross.) Their sperm, however, can remain strong, so don’t bail on birth control.

Awkward? Often. Particularly when people assume you’re their child, then look at you funny when they realize you’re actually “together” together.

Have you been with someone older? We’d love to hear your advice in the replies below.

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : June 14, 2019, 05:15:36 PM
Except for some exceptions (people who are specifically designed to retain high level of sexual prowess throughout their lifetimes) methinks it should be 10 years tops. The gap shouldn't be too wide so there will be less differences.

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: alagbe003 (M) |Time : June 16, 2019, 07:45:36 AM
Except for some exceptions (people who are specifically designed to retain high level of sexual prowess throughout their lifetimes) methinks it should be 10 years tops. The gap shouldn't be too wide so there will be less differences.
I agree with you

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: dayan (M) |Time : June 17, 2019, 07:17:44 AM
Except for some exceptions (people who are specifically designed to retain high level of sexual prowess throughout their lifetimes) methinks it should be 10 years tops. The gap shouldn't be too wide so there will be less differences.

Oga you didn't answer the question!  :))
The question is "what is it like to date someone older".
If you have dated someone older, share your experience.
Maybe when you answer the question, you may find that you are not qualified to make recommendations per appropriate age gaps between two consenting adults!  ;D ;D
Oya, I dey wait!  8)

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: dayan (M) |Time : June 17, 2019, 07:19:54 AM
I agree with you

The same applies to you ogbeni.
We just want to know how it is like to date someone older.
Shikena. lol  :))

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: dayan (M) |Time : June 17, 2019, 07:49:22 AM
I guess I can lead off with my own answer.

Because the question asked about DATING, I would give a relevant answer to that type of relationship.
Marriage is entirely different kettle of fish.

The honest answer, from my own experience, is that it is very intriguing and can be quite exciting and educative if you are my kind that likes to learn from every experience rather than just enjoy.

Dating an older lady enabled me to focus on the important things about man/woman relationship; example, how to relate and interact with a woman.
It enabled me to read her and learn things that women like, because she did not pretend about anything, unlike younger girls.
So, within a very short period, I was able to learn TONS of facts about how woman see the world and what they really care about.
I did not worry about distractions like getting pregnant, because she knew how to take care of herself to insure that she did not get pregnant and so forth.
Same applied with all the other safety issues.
Of course I did not date a careless whore, or some irresponsible woman.
She was very responsible, ambitious, and was not suicidal or just carefree.
She had plans for her future and that was a good thing.

So, in all, she was able to teach me things (maybe I was just learning on my own anyway, because that was part of why I dated her in the first place) that have helped me immensely in my future engagements with the female folks.

I doubt that I could have learned same from a younger girl, because the younger girl would have been more possessive and hassling.
My "older lady" LOL ;D gave me a particular career advice, and that advice later proved SPOT ON years after.

And when it was time to move on, we moved on without any bad blood. She knew ab initio that we were only dating. And she was happy to see me go when the time came for me to go.

Caveat: My experience may be Afro-biased or Nigeria-biased, because my lady was a Naija lady. I wouldn't know if this experience would be replicable outside of Nigeria.
One of the most beautiful things about Nigeria is the social system or just the civil society. It is the BEST worldwide IMHO. The people of Nigeria are the best human beings on earth when they are in Nigeria.
Somehow they understand what it means to be a human being and are always willing to share and lend a hand to even strangers.
I digressed, but it is still a relevant digression.  8)

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : June 18, 2019, 06:38:28 AM

Re: What It's Really Like To Date Someone Older

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : June 18, 2019, 06:43:22 AM
Oga you didn't answer the question!  :))
The question is "what is it like to date someone older".
If you have dated someone older, share your experience.
Maybe when you answer the question, you may find that you are not qualified to make recommendations per appropriate age gaps between two consenting adults!  ;D ;D
Oya, I dey wait!  8)

This one wee just be exposing somebody yansh for everyone to see.

Fine. Fine. Fine.  ::)

I never dated an older lady.  :-[

Shey my comment no com fine again?  :))

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