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She wanted love-making with me, not marriage

By: dayan (M) |Time : August 14, 2019, 09:00:31 AM
Dear Bunmi,

I lost my wife a few years ago in an unfortunate motor accident and had made up my mind to remarry. We were married for over 20 years and she was a good mother to our three boys.

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Late last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at a close friend’s birthday party and we hit things off right away. The love-making was good and I was already toying with the idea of proposing marriage.

Then, all of a sudden, her attitude changed. Thinking she wanted a re-assurance, I had a talk with her that she had my undivided love and I would do anything to make her happy.

You can then imagine how shocked I was when she said all she wanted was the physical side of the relationship. That she had no wish to re-marry and that I had better start shopping for a wife-material.

What type of a woman behaves like this? It would have been understandable if she were a frivolous teenager, but she’s close to 40. What are our women turning into?

Alaba, by e-mail.







Dear Alaba,

Women often feel that they are the only ones that are used and dumped by men, but your experience shows that some women can be ruthless in the pursuit of what they want.

What to you was a big romance was obviously a casual fling to this woman. Now she’s telling you to get a life! Lasting relationships are built on friendship and shared ideas and dreams, not just love making.

Without these feelings, you soon realise you’re saddled with someone you don’t really know after the love-making cools.

Keep your dignity, try to wash this woman off your life and look for another woman out there eager to make a commitment.


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Re: She wanted love-making with me, not marriage

By: dayan (M) |Time : August 14, 2019, 09:01:25 AM
I'll be back later to address this issue ...
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Re: She wanted love-making with me, not marriage

By: dayan (M) |Time : August 14, 2019, 06:47:26 PM
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Late last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at a close friend’s birthday party and we hit things off right away. The love-making was good and I was already toying with the idea of proposing marriage.

Then, all of a sudden, her attitude changed. Thinking she wanted a re-assurance, I had a talk with her that she had my undivided love and I would do anything to make her happy.

You can then imagine how shocked I was when she said all she wanted was the physical side of the relationship. That she had no wish to re-marry and that I had better start shopping for a wife-material.

What type of a woman behaves like this? It would have been understandable if she were a frivolous teenager, but she’s close to 40. What are our women turning into?

This man is mistaken, and should step back and rethink.

The woman is honest and straightforward, and for that, the man should thank his stars!
Some other woman would belie her true feelings, marry the man, and still continue her sexual escapades with other men.

The woman told him plainly that she is NOT wife material, and by "wife material" Nigerians usually mean someone who is devoted (sexually and otherwise) to only one man.
She likely has other men in her life as it were, and she is not willing to be accountable or checked by this man.

She is a divorcee, which means that she may "have had it" with marriage.

She also may be worried about the responsibility of raising the man's children, something she may not be ready for.

So, this man should realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the woman. On the contrary, he is the one with the problem for not expanding his thoughts enough to understand the circumstances surrounding this divorced woman. Some other man wouldn't even broach the idea of marrying a divorcee who has been having sex freely with this man (and I suspect other men).

This is how a divorced man usually ends up marrying a woman who would end up abusing the children left behind by his deceased wife. Whenever a wife dies, children suffer more than whenever a man died, because women are better at protecting children in these circumstances.
The man is already pledging heaven and earth just to marry this woman. You can imagine what his children would face if this woman agreed and ends up maltreating them. This type of a man would even join his new wife to oppress his children as long as his new wife is happy.

Thank God that this woman is rejecting his marriage proposal!

She is kind enough to advice him to go look for a wife material, and for that she is honourable, and deserves to be respected.
Ain't nothing wrong with her. At all.

Re: She wanted love-making with me, not marriage

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : August 18, 2019, 01:50:26 PM
Yes, Dayan!

The woman is blunt and sincere.

There was this girl, lemme tell you about her, just please don't tell her when you see her. This babe is the kinda crazy I want, she's got almost everything on my "list" If not all... She got me, man,  :-\ she did. I see her, we talk - I asked her out, she's crazy, man, she turned me down. What did I do? I soldiered on, you know how it is, persistence! She wasn't having any of it though. She said there's nothing I could do... I begged, I begged - it was embarrassing...
I was losing my mind yet she was just "her"... It was one sided! I stopped texting first - I got no text at all.  ;D

She's my kinda crazy! But she made it clear she's not into me - that's fair enough.

Nice move! Guy, move nice! Savvy?

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