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Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By dayan (M)December 27, 2016, 03:23:58 PM
Does spending time with your partner feel more like completing a prison sentence than being in a relationship? If things have gotten to a point where being with your partner is no longer enjoyable — and it has been this way for a long time — something is clearly amiss. Your relationship could be dying or headed to the point of no return. If you don’t even care about the current state of your relationship, that’s an even stronger indicator that you and your significant other won’t be together for very long. Here are six signs that your relationship is dead.

1. Arguments go unresolved



Before, the thought of your partner being mad at you broke your heart. Now? Not so much. You aren’t as invested in healing ruptures in the relationship. You can feel the tension, anger, and resentment building each day, and part of you hopes the strain will break your partner. Relationship ruptures once filled you with fear, now they fuel you. Suddenly, you find yourself picking fights, and you can’t seem to stop. You derive pleasure from upsetting your partner. Hurt has erupted from the inside and seems to have permanently distorted your partner’s countenance — and it doesn’t even bother you.

It takes effort to work on healing unresolved anger. However, once a relationship starts to die, you may become too tired to fight anymore, and let old wounds fester. When anger continues to reside in your relationship, something is wrong. When you are in love, you’ll do whatever it takes to find out what’s wrong and fix it. That’s why letting anger just sit and rot out the core of your union is a tell-tale sign that one or both of you is done with the relationship.

Therapist Harriet Lerner, author of The Dance of Anger, says anger is an indication that an issue needs to be addressed in your relationship. “Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right,” said Lerner.

2. You think of all the time you wasted



You’re usually sentimental, and you used to get a little misty eyed every time you thought about how far you’ve come as a couple and how long you’ve been together. Now all you can think about is how much time you wasted with this person. It makes you angry to think of the relationships you could have had while you were with your current partner. It also makes you sad to think you may have missed out on a chance to be with the love of your life.


3. You aren’t as attracted



You aren’t as drawn to your partner as you once were. When things between you were going well, all it took was a look or even your partner’s voice, and you would be filled with excitement. But your partner just doesn’t do it for you anymore. Instead, you find yourself becoming more attracted — both physically and emotionally — to someone else.


4. You try to find replacements for your partner



As things begin to go downhill, you start to invest more time at work, in your children, or even the family pet. You’re desperately grasping to get your love needs met in someone or something else. As the distance between you grows, you actually feel relief and happiness. Time away from your partner makes you feel alive.


5. You can’t stand your partner’s touch



There was a time when your partner’s touch would send shivers down your spine. Now, all it does is make your skin crawl. You find any and every excuse to avoid physical contact, and your partner is starting to notice. If you feel this way, you’re not alone.

One tortured wife on Experience Project, a site for people to anonymously vent about life’s struggles, had this to say: “ can’t stand his voice, his touch, or his negativity. It’s gotten to the point where even if a counselor or therapist was involved, I don’t even want him to go because I hate being around him. I hate any and all words coming out of his mouth, and I don’t even like looking at him anymore. When I see him it just sets off anger inside of me, and I snap at everyone, including my kids.”

Does this sound like you? If it does, your relationship is definitely in trouble.


6. You no longer care



Before, you would worry about your partner’s safety. Whenever he or she came home at the end of the work day, you would breathe a sigh of relief and smile from ear to ear. And if there was a missed phone call or an unexpected late arrival, your stomach would be tied up in knots. Now, you feel differently. If your partner came home late or didn’t come home at all, you’d probably be OK with that.

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Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By dayan (M)December 27, 2016, 03:26:25 PM
@No. 6 -very common to see a couple argue and then one of them says "whatever...".
Simply means danger ahead!  :))


Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By Ramjoe (M)December 27, 2016, 09:09:41 PM
No 1: unresolved argument can easily be the root of all the others.  When you have different opinions about anything in a relationship, it's better you iron it out and know how you two will address  such issue when encountered later. Having issues/arguments and neglecting to resolve them is like taking this saying for a joke, "a stitch in time saves nine."

Resolve all issues, no matter how petty you think they are... It helps!


Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By Adenosine (M)December 27, 2016, 09:37:48 PM
@No. 6 -very common to see a couple argue and then one of them says "whatever...".
Simply means danger ahead!  :))
Meh! I hate that word, it rekindle my anger... Whatever, anyhow...


Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By Adenosine (M)December 27, 2016, 09:43:20 PM
All these points are very important and they links to one another, I believe if someone discover anyone of these points in their relationship and create a room for an amendment, definitely others won't follow because you have save yourself from other dangers ahead.


Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By GideonDecember 27, 2016, 10:14:32 PM
Number 1 and 4 points to me are key facts if one wants to know if a Relationship is still alive or dead.... If couples argue without settlement,no consideration is given to the other person... It means selfishness abounds and no one wants to apologise if he or she is wrong ..That is a red flag in a relationship and such means it is near... It shall leads to number 4 if it is left unresolved.


Re: Relationship Advice: 6 Signs Your Relationship Is Dead

By Joyous (F)December 28, 2016, 05:18:59 PM
Does spending time with your partner feel more like completing a prison sentence than being in a relationship? If things have gotten to a point where being with your partner is no longer enjoyable — and it has been this way for a long time — something is clearly amiss. Your relationship could be dying or headed to the point of no return. If you don’t even care about the current state of your relationship, that’s an even stronger indicator that you and your significant other won’t be together for very long. Here are six signs that your relationship is dead.

1. Arguments go unresolved



Before, the thought of your partner being mad at you broke your heart. Now? Not so much. You aren’t as invested in healing ruptures in the relationship. You can feel the tension, anger, and resentment building each day, and part of you hopes the strain will break your partner. Relationship ruptures once filled you with fear, now they fuel you. Suddenly, you find yourself picking fights, and you can’t seem to stop. You derive pleasure from upsetting your partner. Hurt has erupted from the inside and seems to have permanently distorted your partner’s countenance — and it doesn’t even bother you.

It takes effort to work on healing unresolved anger. However, once a relationship starts to die, you may become too tired to fight anymore, and let old wounds fester. When anger continues to reside in your relationship, something is wrong. When you are in love, you’ll do whatever it takes to find out what’s wrong and fix it. That’s why letting anger just sit and rot out the core of your union is a tell-tale sign that one or both of you is done with the relationship.

Therapist Harriet Lerner, author of The Dance of Anger, says anger is an indication that an issue needs to be addressed in your relationship. “Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right,” said Lerner.

2. You think of all the time you wasted



You’re usually sentimental, and you used to get a little misty eyed every time you thought about how far you’ve come as a couple and how long you’ve been together. Now all you can think about is how much time you wasted with this person. It makes you angry to think of the relationships you could have had while you were with your current partner. It also makes you sad to think you may have missed out on a chance to be with the love of your life.


3. You aren’t as attracted



You aren’t as drawn to your partner as you once were. When things between you were going well, all it took was a look or even your partner’s voice, and you would be filled with excitement. But your partner just doesn’t do it for you anymore. Instead, you find yourself becoming more attracted — both physically and emotionally — to someone else.


4. You try to find replacements for your partner



As things begin to go downhill, you start to invest more time at work, in your children, or even the family pet. You’re desperately grasping to get your love needs met in someone or something else. As the distance between you grows, you actually feel relief and happiness. Time away from your partner makes you feel alive.


5. You can’t stand your partner’s touch



There was a time when your partner’s touch would send shivers down your spine. Now, all it does is make your skin crawl. You find any and every excuse to avoid physical contact, and your partner is starting to notice. If you feel this way, you’re not alone.

One tortured wife on Experience Project, a site for people to anonymously vent about life’s struggles, had this to say: “ can’t stand his voice, his touch, or his negativity. It’s gotten to the point where even if a counselor or therapist was involved, I don’t even want him to go because I hate being around him. I hate any and all words coming out of his mouth, and I don’t even like looking at him anymore. When I see him it just sets off anger inside of me, and I snap at everyone, including my kids.”

Does this sound like you? If it does, your relationship is definitely in trouble.


6. You no longer care



Before, you would worry about your partner’s safety. Whenever he or she came home at the end of the work day, you would breathe a sigh of relief and smile from ear to ear. And if there was a missed phone call or an unexpected late arrival, your stomach would be tied up in knots. Now, you feel differently. If your partner came home late or didn’t come home at all, you’d probably be OK with that.

Follow Sheiresa on Twitter @SheiresaNgo

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No 1 is called irreconcilable differences which  I believe starts when No 3 happens and the rest follow suit . All these is what leads marriage  to hit the rock .


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