The need to have someone special in your life may make you overlook some vital qualities you should pay attention to in a long- term partner . This need puts you in a position where you illuminate unimportant qualities and become a slave to emotional rush . All the while , telling yourself that they have to be the one for you.
Sometime last month , I had a heart-to-heart conversation with a friend which centred on the ideal partner . We talked about how most women bother about partners who give them little or no time . Probably only contacts them once they see a social media update. As much as I agree that we cannot tell the heart who to love , we can , however , be very mature and deliberate in choosing the emotions we decide to act on.

Here are few questions you should ask yourself about that partner you are hustling for :
What standards and principles have you set for yourself ? Will they respect them ?
How do they conduct themselves when you are not there ?
What are their work ethics like ?
Who are their friends ?
Do they have a mentor or someone they look up to and can caution them when they get out of hand ?
Do your goals align ?
When you are feeling down and weak in spirit , will they be there to lift you?
Do they support, encourage and motivate you to do better and be a better person?
Are they trying to change or improve you?

When you sincerely answer the above questions without emotions , you will come to a definite conclusion about your potential life partner .
There are stages in life when you begin to understand that dating is no longer for fun but intentional . This does not mean that you cannot decide to be with someone for fun , but you are at a stage where you leave nothing hanging in the air . Lay your cards on the table with confidence and poise because you know what you need, where you are headed and the person you want on that journey with you.
A lot of times , we stay protected from things we don’ t see but, because we are so caught up in our feelings, we can ’t see past them .
So , ask yourself why you want that man or woman to be part of your life . Is the hustle worth it?
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These are questions worth answering.. dating should not be for fun but as a way of assessing if that person fits you or if he or she is worth the hustle.