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Interethnic Marriage: Five Tips for Meeting the In-laws

By: Gideon |Time : October 01, 2018, 06:02:31 AM
Stories of lovers unable to marry because they belong to different ethnic groups are less common in today’s Nigeria than they used to be. In fact, the thought of being confined to one’s own tribe when choosing a life partner may seem ludicrous to a younger Nigerian, yet it was the reality for many a few decades ago.

As we make progress towards detribalisation and authentic nationhood, we can expect to see more couples from across Nigeria’s 250 ethnic groups tying the knot. However, in-laws still play a huge role in successful unions, and they’re often more traditional.

Are you and your partner from different parts of the country? Consider these tips when meeting your partner’s relatives for the first time:

1.Make the first one count
First impressions go a long way. Work together with your partner to make the first meeting with the in-laws as pleasant as possible.


2.No pretence
You don’t have to pretend to be who you are not just to win their approval. It is important that they accept the real you into this family. Be pleasant and charming, but be yourself and don’t start what you can’t or won’t keep up.

3.Show interest
Be genuinely interested in their culture. A person’s ethnic heritage is part of who they are. Knowing a good deal about someone’s language, traditional foods or cultural history can be a great way to win their hearts if they hold these things dear. It also shows you tried, something that people appreciate, whether they’re prospective employers or prospective in-laws.

4.Open up
Don’t leave your partner in the dark about things that matter. If there are aspects of your culture that your family holds dear, your partner should know about it. For instance, it is crucial for a Yoruba man’s fiancée to know about the custom of kneeling before his older relatives, especially if her people don’t kneel to greet.

5. Stay strong

Be a rock for the one you love. No matter how much you prepare, interethnic marriages will test your patience at some point. Regardless of how well-meaning the in-laws are, language and cultural barriers have a way of making an outsider feel like, well, an outsider. Be sensitive, put yourself in your partner’s shoes, and help make bonding easier.
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Re: Interethnic Marriage: Five Tips for Meeting the In-laws

By: Gideon |Time : October 01, 2018, 06:09:02 AM
Well, a follow up on an earlier thread for interethnic relationships. These tips would prove helpful and will help in further bringing together the families of the two parties... Personally, I think number 3 is important.

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