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Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By archangelDecember 14, 2016, 09:29:46 PM
Benjamin Forester

Relationships are difficult. Unfortunately, this is just a sad fact of life we have to face if we want to enjoy the person we love. Despite the challenges, being in love and being married should mean being there for each other, even when your hundreds, if not thousands, of miles away. Committing yourself to a long distance marriage can add a whole extra layer of difficulties on top of the challenges marriages face every day. This is not to say that long distance marriages cannot work. On the contrary, with a little effort long distance marriages can prosper and flourish and provide both man and wife with the loving dedication of matrimony. Below we’ll look at a few of the trials of long distance marriage and how to remedy them for a relationship that really thrives despite those miles apart.

You Won’t Communicate like a ‘Normal’ Marriage but it’s Even More Essential

Normal is all relative, but in a long distance marriage you won’t be seeing or talking to your partner like you would if both of you came home at the end of the day. Just like in any relationship though, talking to your spouse is the number one most important aspect of keeping your long distance marriage happy and functioning. This not only means texting, emailing, Skyping, and talking on the phone on a regular basis, but also having real conversations about meaningful things to you and your partner. Whether you discuss goals for your marriage, what’s going on at home, or your fears and worries, talking to your spouse establishes trust and allows both of you to work through issues together.

In a long distance marriage communication also means having set times to talk with your significant other. Establishing a time of day to call and speak with your partner is a great idea to add some intimate time to your routine and give both of you something to anticipate throughout your day. Sending texts periodically to let each other know you’re thinking of them and you love them is an excellent way to stay connected with your spouse and feel like they are close by.

Responsibilities Can Sometimes Get Muddled

Unfortunately, sometimes those nitty gritty aspects of a marriage have to be flushed out and talked about. Things like paying bills and rent and taking care of the chores around the house are simple tasks that come along with being in a committed relationship but can very easily be forgotten in the hustle and bustle of a long distance marriage. This can leave the one who picks up all of these responsibilities feeling frayed and overworked. This is where those communication skills will come in handy once again.

Talking to your partner seriously about your living expenses and other essential tasks and arrangements and establishing who is responsible for what in your marriage is an important part of making sure the grunt work gets done equally so as not to cultivate feelings of overburden. Knowing who is handling what will allow both of you the confidence of knowing you are working together in your married life despite being apart as well as providing you the time to focus on cultivating your marriage.

Dates May be a Little Different

If it’s possible to see each other in person, try to plan a few days a month to enjoy being together. During these times, take time to relax and bask in each other’s company. Make plans that can easily be put off or canceled if you find you’d rather spend more alone time with your spouse before you’re apart again. That being said, if you’re partner is in the military or in some other circumstance where you can’t see them in person, modern technology offers many solutions for date night.

Since you can’t relax on the couch with your partner or go to the theater for a Friday night date, you’ll have to find other ways to spend time together. Watching a movie or series together online can be an excellent way to feel like you’re cuddled up beside each other with your favorite shows. Skype dinners, or snap chat dinners for public restaurants, are also a great way of providing a dating alternative.

Trust, Confidence, and Faith Will Be Tested

Another unfortunate side effect of long distance marriages, no matter how strong your relationship, at some point or another, you will question your partner’s loyalty. It may be in a small dismissive way that you can quiet within seconds of rationality or it may become a bigger and consuming issue that can have a real and lasting impact on your marriage. Again this issue goes back to communication. It is absolutely important that you discuss any and all fears with your spouse while they, or you, are away. This most certainly includes fears of infidelity.

Communication on these fears with your partner not only builds trust between you but also allows for moments of comfort and dialogue on your emotions and how your long distance relationship may be affecting your marriage. Be honest with your spouse at all times and allow them to be honest with you. Talking through your fears with your significant other can have a enduring influence on your marriage.

It is important to remember that despite the trials of long distance marriage, there are definite ways to make your relationship, not only last, but prosper and grow. Though you may receive advice from many that long distance marriages do not work and will not last, it is important to analyze every situation based on your own experiences, desires, and emotions, and discuss with your partner the difficulties you will face in your relationship. With trust, faith, effort, and support a long distance marriage is sustainable and fulfilling.

Ironically most of the tips featured in this article could double as tips for a wholly happy marriage of any kind. Through communication, responsibility, quality time, and trust, you can lay the foundation for a marriage that will last no matter if you’re a thousand miles apart or curled up on the couch together.

Source: http://husbandforme.com/facing-the-trials-of-long-distance-marriage/




Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By archangelDecember 14, 2016, 09:32:33 PM
Somewhere out there by James Ingram and Landa Ronstadt (lyrics)



Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By Adenosine (M)December 15, 2016, 08:49:29 AM
I love this because I prefer long relationship and that's what have being doing...


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By princepointDecember 15, 2016, 10:47:41 AM
nice topic


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By GideonDecember 15, 2016, 10:54:58 AM
Long distance marriage is a no no from me... Husband and wife should be together, and not separated because of distance issue's...If it is long distance relationship, trust is essential for it to run successfully...


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By dayan (M)December 24, 2016, 10:20:13 PM
Long distance marriage is a no no from me... Husband and wife should be together, and not separated because of distance issue's...If it is long distance relationship, trust is essential for it to run successfully...

Long distance marriage tests all weak points of the human character. People sometimes get into it inadvertently, and other times they do it deliberately.
Either way the challenges are the same.
And it would never stop.


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By naijarian (F)December 25, 2016, 05:44:29 AM
I have always favored it. It just suits me and my kind of person. And I married the same person with the same thought.
Well, to each his own. Goose and gander things. As in. Every time you see, it's love all over again!!! I know what I'm saying oo. I prefer it sa, bottom line.


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By dayan (M)December 25, 2016, 06:08:41 AM
I have always favored it. It just suits me and my kind of person. And I married the same person with the same thought.
Well, to each his own. Goose and gander things. As in. Every time you see, it's love all over again!!! I know what I'm saying oo. I prefer it sa, bottom line.

Hmm, madam you strong o.  :o
How do you cope in the days of evil?


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By naijarian (F)December 25, 2016, 12:45:20 PM
Hmm, madam you strong o.  :o
How do you cope in the days of evil?
I cast and bind  :D ;D

I'm of the school of thought that supports 'putting law into your own hands' If you know what I mean


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By dayan (M)December 26, 2016, 08:27:48 AM
I cast and bind  :D ;D

I'm of the school of thought that supports 'putting law into your own hands' If you know what I mean

 :)) :)) But that can only be a stop-gap measure - if you know what I mean.


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By Joyous (F)December 29, 2016, 02:50:23 PM
I cast and bind  :D ;D

I'm of the school of thought that supports 'putting law into your own hands' If you know what I mean
hehheee, casting and binding does not work in this case but putting laws into your 🤚 Might do. For me, is a No! No! You will not get what you wanted right away. And you can say that now cos there are means of communicating everywhere now.


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By naijarian (F)December 29, 2016, 04:23:19 PM
:)) :)) But that can only be a stop-gap measure - if you know what I mean.
oh well. The well can be filled at other times na. Until then let all gaps receive the hand I'd favor  ;D lmao


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By naijarian (F)December 29, 2016, 04:24:27 PM
hehheee, casting and binding does not work in this case but putting laws into your 🤚 Might do. For me, is a No! No! You will not get what you wanted right away. And you can say that now cos there are means of communicating everywhere now.
yimu
Says who? You can get what you want faster sef, if u Sabi wetin u wan achieve and how you want to achieve it  ;D


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By Joyous (F)January 04, 2017, 11:43:51 PM
yimu
Says who? You can get what you want faster sef, if u Sabi wetin u wan achieve and how you want to achieve it  ;D
is it something I can get from your shop?


Re: Facing the Trials of Long Distance Marriage

By naijarian (F)January 07, 2017, 06:29:35 PM
is it something I can get from your shop?
yes na  ;D


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