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5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By princepointDecember 28, 2016, 12:57:22 AM
Most importantly, know that affairs are not the fault of any of these women—it is the choice and responsibility of their husbands. Relationships are two sided however, and these are some things they have discovered to strengthen their marriage.


1. Time
It’s common among married women to worry too much about household management, children, housework, organizing strict schedules and diagraming every minute of the day. It’s easy to always be aiming for the picture-perfect family. But these behaviors become damaging to the family and especially to husbands when these routines take priority.


Spend quality time with your husband. Don’t put your children ahead of your spouse, and leave your parents out of your relationship. Don’t choose laundry over a good talk, and don’t decide to scrub the kitchen when you could go on a walk together.


2. Excitement
When we get caught up in daily tasks, we become boring (and even bored). Any woman, regardless of marital status, should have her own life: reading, studying, writing, learning new skills and taking care of herself. Be your own person. Your husband will value your joy, intelligence, hard work, beauty and good humor. When you are interested in yourself, you will become irresistible. People who know how to be themselves are the most interesting.


3. Romantic interest
Many wives believe it’s a husband’s obligation to love them. It’s sad to meet women who believe love is a light that never goes out. What a mistake! To be in love, we must constantly work to nurture that love and not lose the things that made us fall in love with that person. Always find ways to serve your spouse and tell him you love him. Remember, you aren’t forced to stay together, but you stay because you want to. You aren’t dependent on someone else to be happy, but you can help each other be happy by working at staying in love.



4. Acceptance
Some women are extremely busy “improving” their husbands, but all this does is make their husbands feel they aren’t good enough. The desire to improve ourselves needs to come from within. Trying to change others is an act of selfishness. You married a man, not a child who needs to finish being raised.



5. Freedom from judgement
Contrary to what most people think, infidelity in men has little to do with intimate relationships or the physical beauty of women. It’s actually common to see that the “other woman” is usually not as beautiful as the wife; she’s just happier, more relaxed, less strict and full of life. Men often look for someone to talk to, who will listen and not judge or criticize them.



please, note what I said at the beginning: being unfaithful is the perpetrator’s decision. It’s not your fault. It’s the decision of your spouse. But it is your responsibility to work on your self-esteem, improve yourself and do what you can to add value to your relationship.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Joyous (F)December 29, 2016, 02:42:21 PM
Most importantly, know that affairs are not the fault of any of these women—it is the choice and responsibility of their husbands. Relationships are two sided however, and these are some things they have discovered to strengthen their marriage.


1. Time
It’s common among married women to worry too much about household management, children, housework, organizing strict schedules and diagraming every minute of the day. It’s easy to always be aiming for the picture-perfect family. But these behaviors become damaging to the family and especially to husbands when these routines take priority.


Spend quality time with your husband. Don’t put your children ahead of your spouse, and leave your parents out of your relationship. Don’t choose laundry over a good talk, and don’t decide to scrub the kitchen when you could go on a walk together.


2. Excitement
When we get caught up in daily tasks, we become boring (and even bored). Any woman, regardless of marital status, should have her own life: reading, studying, writing, learning new skills and taking care of herself. Be your own person. Your husband will value your joy, intelligence, hard work, beauty and good humor. When you are interested in yourself, you will become irresistible. People who know how to be themselves are the most interesting.


3. Romantic interest
Many wives believe it’s a husband’s obligation to love them. It’s sad to meet women who believe love is a light that never goes out. What a mistake! To be in love, we must constantly work to nurture that love and not lose the things that made us fall in love with that person. Always find ways to serve your spouse and tell him you love him. Remember, you aren’t forced to stay together, but you stay because you want to. You aren’t dependent on someone else to be happy, but you can help each other be happy by working at staying in love.



4. Acceptance
Some women are extremely busy “improving” their husbands, but all this does is make their husbands feel they aren’t good enough. The desire to improve ourselves needs to come from within. Trying to change others is an act of selfishness. You married a man, not a child who needs to finish being raised.



5. Freedom from judgement
Contrary to what most people think, infidelity in men has little to do with intimate relationships or the physical beauty of women. It’s actually common to see that the “other woman” is usually not as beautiful as the wife; she’s just happier, more relaxed, less strict and full of life. Men often look for someone to talk to, who will listen and not judge or criticize them.



please, note what I said at the beginning: being unfaithful is the perpetrator’s decision. It’s not your fault. It’s the decision of your spouse. But it is your responsibility to work on your self-esteem, improve yourself and do what you can to add value to your relationship.

I believe all that is said here, but this can only be achieved in the 📚. Or with a housewife.  Am beginning to think that men are selfish. How can you saddle your wife with all these chores and go behind her back and start complaining. You better check this ooooo


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By naijarian (F)December 29, 2016, 06:08:42 PM
 o-O o-O nonsense. Should they even find anything in other women? Especially if money no from there come out  :)) Ans then they'll tell the woman to go work on hserelf. As if its her fault, a promiscuous man will cheat even if the wife is agbani darego.

But then.. Women should package too sa. I had one Aunty like that. Before they got married, she was fine as f&ck. Then she joined a religious group Ans started dressing shabbily like an 'SU' as we dey call it. He warned her severally that he didn't marry such a person she was becoming, they are now divorced.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Joyous (F)January 04, 2017, 11:00:20 PM
o-O o-O nonsense. Should they even find anything in other women? Especially if money no from there come out  :)) Ans then they'll tell the woman to go work on hserelf. As if its her fault, a promiscuous man will cheat even if the wife is agbani darego.

But then.. Women should package too sa. I had one Aunty like that. Before they got married, she was fine as f&ck. Then she joined a religious group Ans started dressing shabbily like an 'SU' as we dey call it. He warned her severally that he didn't marry such a person she was becoming, they are now divorced.
at least he warned her, some will not say anything before they jump out with one little girl that has no responsibility except in looking sexy business.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By naijarian (F)January 07, 2017, 06:35:19 PM
at least he warned her, some will not say anything before they jump out with one little girl that has no responsibility except in looking sexy business.
men!!! They can be funny like that. Its as if they think being prince charming to one small gey like that makes dem cool. I just don't get it.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Joyous (F)January 11, 2017, 07:29:31 AM
men!!! They can be funny like that. Its as if they think being prince charming to one small gey like that makes dem cool. I just don't get it.
That's right, Prince Charming to a girl ready to milk him dry  but the wife may not be demanding much just to make sure there is food on the table, house to live in etc. men should be thinking twice about all these. Am not supporting a wife who does not dress well but at least the man should buy all those and give his wife a benefit of doubt before running off to one naive girl. 40 years old calling 15 years old mummy, lol


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By naijarian (F)January 11, 2017, 08:26:49 PM
That's right, Prince Charming to a girl ready to milk him dry  but the wife may not be demanding much just to make sure there is food on the table, house to live in etc. men should be thinking twice about all these. Am not supporting a wife who does not dress well but at least the man should buy all those and give his wife a benefit of doubt before running off to one naive girl. 40 years old calling 15 years old mummy, lol
hehehe nansense them

I always say if you like an outfit on some gurl aside your wife, go and get her something similar. Easy peasy. You don't have to because of that start a convo that you know may lead u astray


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Joyous (F)January 12, 2017, 05:04:38 AM
hehehe nansense them

I always say if you like an outfit on some gurl aside your wife, go and get her something similar. Easy peasy. You don't have to because of that start a convo that you know may lead u astray
Yes, you hit the nail on the head right here. I hope that they will listen and half of the worlds problems will be fixed


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Ramjoe (M)January 12, 2017, 05:37:56 AM
Yes, you hit the nail on the head right here. I hope that they will listen and half of the worlds problems will be fixed

Don't be like that, girls!
Get the full package, don't "attack" a bit of the post.
Look at that!


Firstly, I will admit that a cheating husband is selfish... But the post is just saying something like, "women, don't be the reason your man will find solace in another woman." (in a narrator's deep voice).
It's not just the beauty or the packaging... Quality time, excitement, respect, support... These things turn the head of even "selfish" ones.

keep your end of the bargain, it's half the problem of the world


Just saying...  ;)


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By naijarian (F)January 16, 2017, 03:24:31 AM
Don't be like that, girls!
Get the full package, don't "attack" a bit of the post.
Look at that!


Firstly, I will admit that a cheating husband is selfish... But the post is just saying something like, "women, don't be the reason your man will find solace in another woman." (in a narrator's deep voice).
It's not just the beauty or the packaging... Quality time, excitement, respect, support... These things turn the head of even "selfish" ones.

keep your end of the bargain, it's half the problem of the world


Just saying...  ;)
goose and gander you know. If ut is d wiman, theyd cry foul!! ..

"Dint be d reasin yiur man find sikace in anither woman"


Indeed. You are right

But.


Ladies, hold your heads higher. These dudes aint got no'in on yall. Do you, love you. You come firstr, you are d only one that matter. You make yourselves happy and itll resound. If he feels too intimated by d new you, he can go have d scrawny twerp that thinks he is all that.


***drops mic


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By dayan (M)January 16, 2017, 07:40:44 AM
goose and gander you know. If ut is d wiman, theyd cry foul!! ..

"Dint be d reasin yiur man find sikace in anither woman"


Indeed. You are right

But.


Ladies, hold your heads higher. These dudes aint got no'in on yall. Do you, love you. You come firstr, you are d only one that matter. You make yourselves happy and itll resound. If he feels too intimated by d new you, he can go have d scrawny twerp that thinks he is all that.


***drops mic

lol @"drops mic". I add Obama style.  ;)


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By dayan (M)January 16, 2017, 07:48:45 AM
o-O o-O nonsense. Should they even find anything in other women? Especially if money no from there come out  :)) Ans then they'll tell the woman to go work on hserelf. As if its her fault, a promiscuous man will cheat even if the wife is agbani darego.

But then.. Women should package too sa. I had one Aunty like that. Before they got married, she was fine as f&ck. Then she joined a religious group Ans started dressing shabbily like an 'SU' as we dey call it. He warned her severally that he didn't marry such a person she was becoming, they are now divorced.

The funny thing is that men (even those in "SU") don't pick wives based only on good behavior. Of course there are men who would (for whatever personal reasons -example, maybe they are not competitive or lack some self confidence) choose to marry "an ugly woman". They just don't want to ever have to win the woman's attention, because nobody else would EVER go to her. There are plently of men like that. But ther are also men who are confident and they pick very beautiful women, even those who are sexually "liberated", and they still keep the woman in line, even turn her into whatever type of woman he wants.

He should have shopped clothes for her. Sometimes, direct intervention is what can save the day.
If the man loved his wife, he should have done everything, including buying her clothes and shoes to dress the way he wants.
I always say that the man is to blame for much of what goes on in marriages.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Ramjoe (M)January 16, 2017, 10:22:58 AM

I always say that the man is to blame for much of what goes on in marriages.


I share that view too...

Just that the responsibility of man should be adequately supported by the woman of the house... A man tuning his woman or trying to tune her into what he wants in his house is either mistaken or in for a war if the woman in question ain't ready for tuning.

Women should be submissive, even if it's just a little bit.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By GideonJanuary 16, 2017, 11:36:51 AM

I share that view too...

Just that the responsibility of man should be adequately supported by the woman of the house... A man tuning his woman or trying to tune her into what he wants in his house is either mistaken or in for a war if the woman in question ain't ready for tuning.

Women should be submissive, even if it's just a little bit.

Nicely said!...It is difficult to change someone. Men can pilot the change they want in their wives but the clause is if the woman is stubborn,there will be problems in that marriage....
In summary,..It is a two way thing and not solely on the man's issue... Both parties should work to make their marriage successful.


Re: 5 Things Men Find In Other Women

By Joyous (F)January 17, 2017, 07:27:42 AM
Nicely said!...It is difficult to change someone. Men can pilot the change they want in their wives but the clause is if the woman is stubborn,there will be problems in that marriage....
In summary,..It is a two way thing and not solely on the man's issue... Both parties should work to make their marriage successful.
If the woman is difficult to change then thats when the above advice goes to her. Otherwise half if not 110% goes to the men.


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