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4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 06:01:11 AM
Some people, especially those in relationships with significant age gaps, like to say that age is just a number. Of course, this is true: When it comes to relationships where one partner is significantly older than the other, it’s not age that matters most. Instead, it’s all those other little things — shared hobbies and goals, similar temperaments, mutual respect, and understanding.

These are the things that typically determine whether or not a partnership between two people is built to last.

Older men have no problem dating younger women, and the opposite dynamic of older women dating younger men is becoming more common, too. But why? Why would a guy seek out a woman who is five (or more) years older than him? Maybe it’s because they’re in on a little secret that you haven’t quite figured out for yourself yet. If you can’t already guess, there are a lot of benefits to dating a more “seasoned” woman.

- She'll Probably Be More Matured Than Girls Your Age Or Younger

With age comes experience and wisdom, which is precisely why we often turn to those older than us for advice about everyday problems. They’ve been around the block, leaving them equipped with plenty of knowledge that can change a younger person’s viewpoint on whatever issue they may be facing. The same applies in a dating context.

Some older women are more sophisticated than younger women because they’ve had more time to experience life.
 
For someone who is just starting to date older women, their points of view, and the way they see the world may be new, fresh, and exciting. This new perspective will affect a man who is sensitive and attentive — he’ll acquire an expanded sensibility and he’ll have the benefit of her experiences.

- She'll Most Likely Be Financially Secured

The older a woman is, the higher the probability that she has her financial house in order.

This isn’t always a done deal, of course, but there are older women out there looking for a young stud like yourself that they can dote on.

When it comes to money, older women dating younger men may be looking for someone they can take care of and mold.

Other women may be looking for a younger man who has his own money; it really depends on the woman.

- She Knows What She Wants

Younger women, like younger men, are often still trying to figure themselves out — what they like, what they don’t; who they can see themselves with; what things in life matter most to them. Older women typically have these things figured out already.

- She Has More Sexual Experience Than You

Older women will typically bring many years of sexual experience into a relationship with them, and there’s a good chance they will be able to teach you a thing or two in between the sheets.

Generally speaking, the older she is, the more sex she has had and if you are the type who's willing to try out new stuff, then an older woman might be your best bet.


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Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 06:03:28 AM
Guys, what's your take on this one?


Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 08:29:05 AM
This one is a heavy duty topic o...
But we must COME HERE AND SAY IT!  :)) 8)

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 08:35:56 AM
Anyway, my opening submission to this topic is that if I were a young woman, and my boyfriend or husband has remotely any older woman around him, and they are not related by blood, I would watch my back!  ;D
A day will come, when younger women come to full realization of how disadvantaged they are viz a viz an older woman, in the game of hearts. It isn't even close at all.  :(
I'll be back to elaborate as much as I can.  8)

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 08:38:49 PM
My second submission loading...

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 08:53:20 PM
That submission is that things get relative very quickly in making these evaluations.
The broad brush guess would be that the "optimum female old age" for guys considering dating older women should be between 30 and 45 years; ie before menopause (up to 55 years for some women who are biologically and psychologically up to it). Post menopausal women ain't fun. I stand to be corrected tho!
For guys considering dating them, a rough optimal age would be 24- 34years.
Anything below these male ages may not end well(due to immaturity both biological and psychological), and anything above those ages may be the same as a guy dating his age mate.
I go out on a limb here hoping that someone would prove me wrong though.

Oga Ramjoe, what's your take?

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 09:09:54 PM
My last submission is to share a very important information about women's stages of sexual life to help guys to understand them better.
So, here below:

Sexual Stages of Women: Ages 20-50

It is well known that the hormones called estrogen and testosterone play an important role in increasing or decreasing sexual attraction. But it is not the only thing which has an influence on women’s sexuality. Sexual attraction depends on different factors such as hormones, age, physiological factors, and social factors. One should not forget about hereditary as well. Although a woman’s sexuality is individual in nature, all age categories have much in common.

20 years: a woman is single and happy.

In spite of the existing opinion, the age of 20 is not an obligatory time of impetuous sexual attraction.
Too many girls of that age are concerned with the problems of their appearance, their studies, or their career. According to statistics, unmarried women are twice as worried about their sexual attraction and sexual abilities as married women are. The more stable the relations are, the more sexual attraction a woman has. Some research shows that if a woman has sex less than once a week, she has more problems with her menstrual cycle and ovulation than women who have regular sex.

Additionally, two-thirds of diseases transmitted by sexual connection are typical for people up to the age of 25, and women are infected more often than men. It is unnecessary to say that a fear of being infected doesn’t increase sexual attraction. Nevertheless, the fear of unplanned pregnancy is rated first among the reasons for a decrease in sexual attraction. It may sound contradictory, but the necessity of using contraceptives also decreases sexual attraction. As we see it, it is an exclusive circle.

Besides, the sexuality of many young women is determined by a regular menstrual cycle, and sexual attraction either increases or decreases depending on this cycle. During ovulation a woman’s attraction is at its peak -- that’s why they orgasm quicker than at other times. It’s not accidental that during this period women have greatest chance of becoming pregnant.

The most popular contraceptive method among young women is hormone pills.

They can affect the libido differently. They can either suppress the secreting of testosterone (which is responsible for sexual attraction), or they can increase sexual attraction because a woman relaxes and isn’t afraid of becoming pregnant. When partners use condoms, the intensity of sexual sensations falls down as well as sexual attraction.

30 years: a woman is married and has children.

By 30 years of age a woman, as a rule, has achieved a certain level of self-knowledge. She clearly understands her needs. Moreover, by that time most women have stable relationships. Their libido has achieved its maximum level, and only the birth of a child or some problems at work can decrease it.
Techniques of sex are being improved through practice, and by the age of 30 women orgasm easier and quicker.

From the age of 30-40, women are at peak of their sexuality. According to some doctors, women complain of sexual problems during the first years of marriage less often. After the age of 35, the level of testosterone starts to fall down – though not considerably enough to affect the libido.

This age is childbearing for most women. During pregnancy, women experience a rise of sexuality -- especially in the second term of pregnancy. It is caused by the increase in hormones (the level of progesterone increases by a thousand times and estrogen by hundred times). The growing pressure on the genitals results in blood flow to these organs. It is interesting to know that if a woman is waiting for a son, she has a bigger sexual attraction because during the second term the fetus begins to secrete its own men hormones, which affect sexual attraction.

Some women say that they don’t want to even think about sex after childbirth.
The reasons for that are because of overstraining and the drop in the level of hormones. The level of testosterone is significantly decreasing, though it quite quickly comes to normal. The frequency of sex may be reduced by 2-3 times during four months. At the same time, any sex may be followed by pain and dryness in the vagina. About 70% of women experience these problems during the first six months after childbirth.

Even if the level of hormones are normal, women very often have stress after the childbirth which “kills” any desire to have sex. A woman is under constant pressure sharing her time between her baby, her elder children, and her home affairs. Suckling also suppresses the secreting of hormones. That’s why nursing mothers have some kind of a menopause. Nevertheless, all of these unpleasant symptoms are over after a few months and women’s sexual attraction is restored -- and sometimes it becomes even stronger.

 40 years: women become very attractive and sexual again.
 Although the level of hormones continues to fall after 40, the sexuality of many women seems to awaken again. It is caused by lowered levels of stress connected with children and a career. The children are mature enough and a woman has some financial stability. According to some doctors, women

at the age of 40 complain of sexual problems less often than at other

ages. Many women also have fewer women’s diseases.

45-50 years: It is a period of menopause and the level of

estrogen and testosterone starts to fall down.

At an average, this period starts when a woman is about 46. About half

of women begin to have such symptoms as a drop in sexual attraction, irregular

menstruations, and vaginal dryness. To stabilize their normal state, women

take hormonal contraceptive pills.

A woman’s sexuality is also strongly affected by the state of

her thyroid gland. On average, 1 out of 10 forty-year-old women has some

problems with her thyroid gland.

The symptoms of this disease are the following: extraordinary tiredness,

overweight, depression, and a drop in sexual attraction.

But the drop in sexual attraction doesn’t mean that sex can’t

be excellent, especially as the ability to feel an orgasm doesn’t

disappear. Like thirty-year old women, forty-year old women know exactly

what they want from sex, what excites, and they have more time and energy

to meet their wishes. Although women have a decreased sexual attraction,

they can reach a new level of sexual satisfaction. Knowing each other

for a long time, the partners aren’t ashamed to experiment and to

try new poses. But the ironical and sad thing lies in the fact that men

after 40 have some sexual problems, and the frequency of sex considerably

falls down.

50 years: a new beginning.

This period is generally characterized by the beginning of menopause.

When women come up to the period of menopause (generally at the age of

51) they begin to experience a considerable drop in sexuality, almost

down to some kind of dysfunction. It’s not surprising because the

secretion of estrogen (the hormone which is responsible for wetting the

vagina and blood flow to genitals) abruptly drops, as well as the level

of testosterone. The body stops secreting ovules from the ovaries and

the menstrual cycle is over.

But it is too early to say good-bye to sex. A woman that has

approached the period of menopause has at least one-third of her life

at her disposal and she can feel pleasure in intimate relationships. And

although this pleasure may be spoiled by natural physiological changes

in the woman’s body, most women are lucky to overcome most of these

troubles -- especially as the discomfort connected with menstruations

and contraceptives has been left behind.

The most common problem for women during the climacteric period is that

the vagina looses its elasticity and it doesn’t become wet enough

during sexual connection. That’s why it is difficult for women to

feel sexual excitement and orgasm, and men are sometimes led into error

thinking that this dryness is caused by a woman’s indifference to

them. It is possible to overcome this problem through hormone therapy

or by using lubricants. The partners should pay special attention to the

period of preliminary caresses.

Although some women have less interest in sexual connection after climax,

others (and there are quite many of them!) say that sex gives them more

pleasure than earlier. Libido may even become stronger after the finishing

of menstruations, which is quite natural and there is no pathology in

it. According to statistics, four out of five American women that are

over 50 say that after menopause their sexual life has either improved

or stayed the same. American specialists think that sex can even adequately

replace hormone restoration therapy after the beginning of menopause.

It can, to a greater extent, eliminate the unpleasant symptoms of climax.


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Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: dayan (M) |Time : April 15, 2019, 09:21:32 PM
Having gone through these natural stages of women sexual evolution, I can fully understand why my Igbo ancestors had a system in place whereby a woman was left alone during pregnancy and for about 2-4 years after childbirth; ie during nursing of babies: Igbo kids nursed for at least 3 years back then.
The woman's body needs time to recover after birth.
Which then explains the rational Igbo ancestral solution : POLYGYNY.
I can also understand the concubinage culture that held sway in many parts of Igboland.
It solved practical problems and kept society calm and peaceful.
When the European colonialists came, they brought monogamy with them and along with that adultery and clandestine sex.
According to the Achebeian analogy, THING FELL APART.

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: alagbe003 (M) |Time : April 16, 2019, 10:23:23 AM
Even if you consider dating older woman I think the gap should not be more than 2-5 years, though it depends on personal interest and reason for the relationship. If it's towards marriage 2-5 years is not bad, but otherwise the older the wine the better

Re: 4 Reasons You Should Consider Dating An Older Woman

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : Today at 02:05:48 PM
That submission is that things get relative very quickly in making these evaluations.
The broad brush guess would be that the "optimum female old age" for guys considering dating older women should be between 30 and 45 years; ie before menopause (up to 55 years for some women who are biologically and psychologically up to it). Post menopausal women ain't fun. I stand to be corrected tho!
For guys considering dating them, a rough optimal age would be 24- 34years.
Anything below these male ages may not end well(due to immaturity both biological and psychological), and anything above those ages may be the same as a guy dating his age mate.
I go out on a limb here hoping that someone would prove me wrong though.

Oga Ramjoe, what's your take?

Hehehehe... Talking about how relative this kind of discussion is - it depends on what the guy really wants (and that has what he can live with at the center). The guy must be a "real man" for a start ie he's got to be the one making decisions for himself and not someone else or some group of "someones" - he's got to have the balls to choose without apologies.

And no matter how crazy it may sound nothing beats INNER PEACE in this world because in it you find a lot of great things - for example you get hope, love, contentment - most importantly you get fulfilment; it allows you to breakthrough any barrier if you never lose it.... Solomon made it pretty clear in the book of Ecclesiastes (emphasis on chapters 1 and 2) that this inner peace and joy within can't be traded for anything (to put it more rightly, shouldn't be traded for anything else).

 :)) Relax, I didn't forget the topic...

All I'm saying is that if what you want is in an older woman, don't hesitate to go for her. In Africa, to narrow it down, in Nigeria - especially the "western world" where the confused are a lot more than the "not" - it might be extremely difficult but I think it'd be worth it eventually.

I agree that both sides (male and female) must attain a level of maturity before these kinda relationships can even be discussed. To support this stance, you'd do well to remember how many high school sweethearts you used to know eventually got married to each other (please, I'm not talking about bollyhood here); few, very few. And one of the main reasons it hardly worked out is that most of those high school couples eventually grew up (matured), discovered they wanted something/someone else - on many occasions, these ladies levelled up, they moved on to bigger things, bigger men, older men than their high school heartthrobs - the ladies knew that the older guys could always get 'em their desires where (almost all) the younger ones are still finding their feet. That's how it used to be, that's how it still works. However, the script has got a little twist somewhere nowadays as these dudes don't take long to grow up like they used to. They see what they want quicker than they used to - it may lie with "young" ladies or the "old" ladies - if that's really what they want they go for it. Methinks, that's right. Life is short - live now.

Ball's in your court...


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