Date: November 30, 2020, 09:19:26 PM
Why should you be uncomfortable because she doesn’t want marriage?: Family : Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum
“According to statistics, about one in four women in urban areas will be single by the time they hit 40. It’s crazy to think it’s because none had the opportunity to marry. Today’s modem, self-supporting woman doesn’t feel the need to get married out of duty, fear or social pressure.
Like all the unmarried women I know, I’m not anti-married, I’m asked most often whether I worry about growing old alone with no children to look after me. Yes I do.“But having children doesn’t mean they will be on hand to take care of you as I’ve recently witnessed with one elderly neighbour who hasn’t seen nor heard of her son, an only child, since her stroke last year. A lot of friends who gave their blood and sweat for their children’s foreign education now have children who sneer at coming back home for anything – except maybe quickly come home for their parent’s funeral then leg it back as quickly as they could.
“As for the financial position, I get the impression that as girls achieve more academically, increasing number of women are earning more than most men they date. That is a double-edged sword, as women are finding themselves the target of gold-diggers.“Men have suffered this for centuries, of course, but whenever I meet a penniless man, I find myself thinking: ‘Not so fast, loverboy’. I haven’t been careful all my life so that I can be taken for a ride, as have several female friends.
“The fact is that women are evolving. We would look back one day and think it was ridiculous we used to feel pressure into marriage. Women are more independent than men, the stronger sex when it comes to both caring and crises.“Isn’t it the lionesses of the pack who do most of the hunting? Maybe marriage made sense in the days when women couldn’t own property or vote. But now we are financially independent and free to achieve more than ever in our working lives. So why on earth would we shackle ourselves to someone who is constantly asking ‘what’s for dinner?’”