Date: July 05, 2020, 08:38:30 AM
What is the first thing you look for in a wife? : Family : Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum
If it's just the first thing I look out for... That's beauty . Please, don't judge me. Who doesn't like fine stuff? The looks mehnnnnn. Going further to answer the question of what tips the balance... for life. That's definitely beyond looks. It's more than beauty. In my little sojourn in this dimension, I have come to realize that each woman at one point or the other falls in love. They cannot fake it 100% and they cannot hide it 100% either. As for me, myself and I - the one I will choose must "choose me" too... There's no point staying with someone who doesn't love you and hoping that someday she will care about you because you "love" her. I understand the concept of playing hard to get, giving cold shoulders so as not to look cheap and all that but you see through the charade somehow. We are in a world where a lady would save contacts with names like "free dinner", "monthly subscription", "my ATM", "Maga", etc and all of these guys would actually think they have found their "soul mate" if they are not careful, such lady will milk them dry, move on and leave their lives in shambles. If you try and try but she's not gonna let you into her life, just move on - if you choose to wait for "someday" that your love will win her over, that someday may never come because sometimes (to be on the safer side I am not using most times) she just doesn't love your kind of person. Moreover, some dudes love up so much that they knowingly(emphasis on this, they intentionally) choose to be "plan B" or "assistant boyfriends" because they don't want to "lose her" - methinks they are toying with fire... There's a reason or loads of reasons she prefers the other guy, and that reason or reasons hardly goes away permanently so even when it seems like a victory, it may be shortlived as another guy out there will beat you with same reason(s) and voila; you become the assistant again because she has probably informed you that you are not enough. Hold your self esteem tight, man or woman, you deserve to feel loved. It's dangerous when the affinity is one-sided.
This is a quotable quote!Dunno, but it just doesn't seem to end. I mean, some people still believe that they can wear down the defences of potential mates if they try hard enough. But that is the point! If a person is trying or "working hard" to win a lover over, it is mistaken, because love is FREE! Love comes uninvited: It is either there, or NOT. No need to "work" for it.