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What advice will you as a man give your daughter about keeping her virginity?

By Joyous (F)December 18, 2016, 03:07:20 PM
What advice will you as a man give your daughter about keeping her virginity before marriage?


Re: Sex education.

By naijarian (F)December 18, 2016, 03:27:35 PM
If it were me, I'd say "chose wisely.'

But deciding to loose it before marriage doesn't mean she is loose or morally degraded. We need to start go rethink this Virginity keeping trend based on religious teachings.

It is like saying if you loose your Virginity before marriage, you won't get a hood husband or have children. And we all know that's not the case. So, if she wants to face hr studies and keep it yes please. If it is because religion says its better, hmmmmm. Being a virgin doesn't guarantee a happy marriage or good husband.


Re: Sex education.

By dayan (M)December 18, 2016, 11:19:25 PM
If it were me, I'd say "chose wisely.'

But deciding to loose it before marriage doesn't mean she is loose or morally degraded. We need to start go rethink this Virginity keeping trend based on religious teachings.

It is like saying if you loose your Virginity before marriage, you won't get a hood husband or have children. And we all know that's not the case. So, if she wants to face hr studies and keep it yes please. If it is because religion says its better, hmmmmm. Being a virgin doesn't guarantee a happy marriage or good husband.

Truism


Re: Sex education.

By dayan (M)December 18, 2016, 11:21:54 PM
@Topic,
Well, it depends...
She should keep it hopefully till she gets married... SOON- say 18-20yrs MAX.
That's all.


Re: Sex education.

By Joyous (F)December 19, 2016, 10:48:36 AM
If it were me, I'd say "chose wisely.'

But deciding to loose it before marriage doesn't mean she is loose or morally degraded. We need to start go rethink this Virginity keeping trend based on religious teachings.

It is like saying if you loose your Virginity before marriage, you won't get a hood husband or have children. And we all know that's not the case. So, if she wants to face hr studies and keep it yes please. If it is because religion says its better, hmmmmm. Being a virgin doesn't guarantee a happy marriage or good husband.
That's a good one. I know that virginity does not guarantee a happy marriage but at least it will earn you some trust, Respect and privileges in your marriage


Re: Sex education.

By Joyous (F)December 19, 2016, 10:49:42 AM
@Topic,
Well, it depends...
She should keep it hopefully till she gets married... SOON- say 18-20yrs MAX.
That's all.
what if she did not get married within the age bracket, Then what?


Re: What advice will you as a man give your daughter about keeping her virginity?

By Joyous (F)December 19, 2016, 10:56:04 AM
What advice will you as a man give your daughter about keeping her virginity before marriage?
For me: It think the advice will depend on my daughter's personality. firstly I will say, "KEEP IT" and I will list all the disadvantages of early sex. But on the other hand like I said earlier if she is the kind of girl that is matured (in mind and highly intelligent) and if she wants it I will say ok but bring home your man and get ready to marry soon. Since you are ready for sex you should as well get ready for marriage.


Re: What advice will you as a man give your daughter about keeping her virginity?

By naijarian (F)December 20, 2016, 03:05:08 AM
For me: It think the advice will depend on my daughter's personality. firstly I will say, "KEEP IT" and I will list all the disadvantages of early sex. But on the other hand like I said earlier if she is the kind of girl that is matured (in mind and highly intelligent) and if she wants it I will say ok but bring home your man and get ready to marry soon. Since you are ready for sex you should as well get ready for marriage.
yes oo. Cos with sex. Anything can come in. I agree with you, I would like to know who she is having sex with/he has been bleeping too.


Re: Sex education.

By naijarian (F)December 20, 2016, 03:09:36 AM
@Topic,
Well, it depends...
She should keep it hopefully till she gets married... SOON- say 18-20yrs MAX.
That's all.
no age jor. No child should have sex, so its from 18 till whenever she/he can hold it for.

Cos nothing is predictable. Like joyous mentioned, what happens if marriage doesn't happen within that time. But I'd kk to think you meant when she should start being sexuak though


Re: Sex education.

By dayan (M)December 20, 2016, 10:12:33 AM
what if she did not get married within the age bracket, Then what?

You raise your child and tell her that she should obtain bachelors degree in some course, and most often she obtained that degree (with very few exceptions).
If while you raise your child, you explain to her the reasons she should marry as soon as she's out of college (say 21 yrs), she would most likely work towards that goal.


Re: Sex education.

By dayan (M)December 20, 2016, 10:17:58 AM
no age jor. No child should have sex, so its from 18 till whenever she/he can hold it for.

Cos nothing is predictable. Like joyous mentioned, what happens if marriage doesn't happen within that time. But I'd kk to think you meant when she should start being sexuak though

I said 18-20 which means she should keep it till that age. 18 is no child.


Re: Sex education.

By naijarian (F)December 20, 2016, 12:34:31 PM
I said 18-20 which means she should keep it till that age. 18 is no child.
yeah I know. I agree with what you replied joyous with too. But, such will only cause anxiety and she or he may end up with the wrong person. Mum says it's good gir me to get married at 21 since I'm outta uni anyway. Then focus will be on marriage and not really on love and it's exploration.


Re: Sex education.

By dayan (M)December 21, 2016, 06:00:53 AM
yeah I know. I agree with what you replied joyous with too. But, such will only cause anxiety and she or he may end up with the wrong person. Mum says it's good gir me to get married at 21 since I'm outta uni anyway. Then focus will be on marriage and not really on love and it's exploration.

The focus should always be on marriage, but the girl obviously has to accept to marry and live with that person for life.
Currently, people live it backwards -find love, then marry. I say find a husband or a husband material, and then test for love like you would test the ground for oil deposit.  :))
If the oil (in this case love) is there, it will manifest, and then the marriage happens.
I know it is counter intuitive and anachronistic to how people do it these days, but I believe that "these days people" are wrong.  8)


Re: Sex education.

By naijarian (F)December 21, 2016, 02:47:02 PM
The focus should always be on marriage, but the girl obviously has to accept to marry and live with that person for life.
Currently, people live it backwards -find love, then marry. I say find a husband or a husband material, and then test for love like you would test the ground for oil deposit.  :))
If the oil (in this case love) is there, it will manifest, and then the marriage happens.
I know it is counter intuitive and anachronistic to how people do it these days, but I believe that "these days people" are wrong.  8)
chain Oga dayan!!! Na Wa u oo
We 'these days people" think when I've is there, na that tine when marriage go begin dey for d horizon. And moreover, they may even decide not to marry sef :D husband material before u begin wonder if u love am? Chai. E dey risky ooo. Coa husband material dey dey scarce especially if w consider the "make of the fabric of d material ooo".  ;)


Re: Sex education.

By Joyous (F)December 24, 2016, 10:25:36 AM
The focus should always be on marriage, but the girl obviously has to accept to marry and live with that person for life.
Currently, people live it backwards -find love, then marry. I say find a husband or a husband material, and then test for love like you would test the ground for oil deposit.  :))
If the oil (in this case love) is there, it will manifest, and then the marriage happens.
I know it is counter intuitive and anachronistic to how people do it these days, but I believe that "these days people" are wrong.  8)
Love the man you married not marry the man you love, that's it dayan? ;D. This makes me to remember what advice my mom gave me before getting married but I did not listen.


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