img Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum - Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?
Welcome, Guest.
Did you miss your activation email?

Date: January 18, 2021, 07:57:03 AM

Contact
imgimgimg

Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?: Family : Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum

113 views

Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?

By: dayan (M) |Time : January 03, 2021, 05:32:51 AM
By Bunmi Sofola

What is your conception of love? It’s a question that has inspired everyone from Shakespeare to Sinatra and now scientists believe they have found the answer – and it is not in your head, it is in your heart!  According to their research, Dr. Andreas Bariets and Professor Semir Zaki say new insights that could solve some of the mysteries surrounding love has been revealed. For example, is the love between parent and child the same as the emotion felt by lovers?  And, are the kinds of love we feel for friends, parents or pets actually separate, different emotions or are they all a single feeling in various forms?

“Science say that the reason we fall in love is simple – love brings men and women together so that we can mate, pass on genetic material and ensure that the human race survives”, says part of the reports. “The love we feel for children is there to make sure that they too, live to grow up and pass on their genes in turn. But the human brain is complex and exactly how love helps us along the road to mating has never been revealed.  Until now”.

Neuroscientist Dr. Bariets and Prof. Zaki at the University College, London, measured brain activity in 22 mothers who viewed pictures of their own children, then other children they know. They also show the mums’ pictures of their partners, a best friend, and an adult acquaintance. The two scientists found love of overlap between the brain areas activated during feelings of romantic love for a partner and those involved in maternal love of their own children.  These brain cells are the same ones we use when we are doing something pleasant – eating and drinking for example.

“But certain parts of the brain seem actually to shut down when we love someone”, continues the report.  “The prefrontal cortex, which helps us make judgements about other people, switches off when we’re in love.  And, when we think about our children, areas that deal with negative emotions such as fear and aggression are deactivated.  That could explain one of the great mysteries of life. Why we don’t notice obvious faults in our partners and kids, love, it seems really is blind”.  “The research also shows why it takes so long to see flaws in people we idolise, and why we can end up choosing the wrong person to commit to.  But when our love cools, our brains wake up to reality again – and we find ourselves looking at those we once loved with different eyes.

Additional experiments have shown that love can affect us in different ways, depending on whom we feel affection for.  “When we look at our husbands or partners, we activate a part of the brain called the hypothalamus, which in turn pushes out chemicals to arouse us sexually”, continues the report.  “But the hypothalamus doesn’t respond when we look at our children.
Love for our kids seems to be connected to the part of the brain that helps us to recognise faces. Children and babies change so quickly that our face recognition machinery has to keep updating itself. But this area isn’t very active when we think about our partners.  So, perhaps, nature intended us to stay with the same person for our whole lives.

“Communication forms a big part of love. And, in order to communicate well, we have to develop insight into what’s going on in other people’s mind so that we don’t offend them and can please them. It should, therefore, come as no surprise to discover that areas of the brain that help us pick up on the signals others give out are active in romantic love.  It seems that part of the reward of being in love comes from understanding that someone also loves you. But once again, these areas aren’t so important in parental love. So, knowing that our children don’t feel about us the same way we feel about them doesn’t stop us loving them”.

Thanks to these two experts, we now know that when we fall in love, our brains numb down and rule our hearts. That’s why we rush into sex and produce children we also love, no matter what.  And, although this may sound a very insignificant way of doing things, it has worked so far.”

Five steps to save your marriage

According to Andy, a relationship counsellor, these five steps come in handy when you want to save a troubled marriage:

1. When you’re in a hole, stop digging. Under pressure, we tend to try the same failed strategy again and again. Even though we know pushing for an answer; getting angry or going silent doesn’t work, we imagine doing it one more time (but bigger, louder or far longer) will change things. It won’t.

2. Stop playing tit-for-tat. He does something horrible and you match him Soon, it will become a race to the bottom.

3. Just for a second, put your feelings to one side and step in your partner\s shoes.

4. Make a full apology. This is different from saying sorry. First acknowledge any behaviour that you regret, next, identify how this might have made him feel, and then apologise. Please don’t explain why you acted as you did – that’s for another day – because it can sound like an excuse and lessen the power of your apology.

5. Be the big one. If you love your husband – and if not, then why are you spending hours talking about him to your girlfriends – do you love him enough to give without any expectation (in the short term) of getting anything back?

Source

Re: Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?

By: dayan (M) |Time : January 03, 2021, 05:35:34 AM
This article is not well written, though the scientific opinions from it are credible.
The author manipulated a few information and presenting  non-existing inferences from the article.

I shall point out one of such author tainted bias/skew below.

Re: Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?

By: dayan (M) |Time : January 03, 2021, 06:11:39 AM
Quote
Love for our kids seems to be connected to the part of the brain that helps us to recognise faces. Children and babies change so quickly that our face recognition machinery has to keep updating itself. But this area isn’t very active when we think about our partners.  So, perhaps, nature intended us to stay with the same person for our whole lives.

The author examined a scientific finding, but then skewed it to reach the wrong conclusion in the quoted text above.

Yes, people adjust mentally as their kids change over the years, to retain the love for the kids. The question is, what happens when adult lovers change, even if minutely, over the years of marrying the same person, and bad things start happening: cheating, extramarital sex, divorce, spousal abuses, spousal homicide, etc (of same former lovers)?

Parents don't hurt their kids because they change. Why can't adult lovers fully (at least 90%) tolerate the fewer (comparatively speaking) changes that their lovers undergo?

Why can't "love" as demonstrated in kids also propel adult lovers to tolerate such changes in their lovers, and accommodate them warts and all -ALWAYS, as parents do their kids?
Why do significant number of people who married their former lovers cheat on them at some point?

Why then do people divorce their former lovers, but retain the love for their kids, even if they go deviant?
Why tolerate deviancy in offspring, but not lovers deviancy?

Keep in mind that adults change less than kids, yet a lover would divorce his/her former lover 1000 times before a parent would disown a son or daughter (even ones that almost kill them)?

This glitch challenges the conclusion reached by the author. The point is that things other than "love" keep people longer in relationships, because "love" fades and wanes, with time.

My take is that this is the contradiction, or paradox, found in the English word "love" (the anglicized feeling of affecting which does not fully qualify the affection, i.e. whether familial, or amorous).

The term "love" is the problem here, because it is an omnibus English term whose origins (Latin) better present branches that fully describe the feeling - fuller semantics of the word.

Maybe now you see why some cultures don't marry based on "love". And those cultures which don't marry based on love tend to have almost zero divorces.

Re: Science Says the Reason People Fall in Love Is To Procreate? How True Is That?

By: dayan (M) |Time : January 03, 2021, 06:22:35 AM
As for the topic, i.e. whether people fall "love" (lust really), to procreate, the resounding answer is YES.

But, it is a mistake to assume that an enduring life long relationship can only be built on such feeling.

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic. Reply

web site traffic statistics