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Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By dayan (M)January 03, 2017, 09:34:08 AM
Nassarawa man, Isyaka Dahiru, who married two wives on the same day has spoken, saying he loves them both with equal degree, and that some marital issues he had with his ex-wife prompted his decision.



Speaking to Daily Nigerian on Sunday, Mr. Dahiru also said he took the decision because of the love they showed him.

    “I have been dating one of the wives, Rashida, since before I divorced my first wife. My life ambition was to marry only two wives. But after the divorce, I met Khadija at my workplace and I fell in love with her.

    There is good understanding among us. They call themselves sisters, eat together in the same plate. They are just sisters.

    I love them both with equal degree. They showed me deep love and care too. They possess everything I need in a woman. So I couldn’t resist marrying them both at a time” he added.


Asked if he would take another pair in future, Mr. Dahiru simply replied he could not predict the future.


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By dayan (M)January 03, 2017, 09:37:45 AM
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I love them both with equal degree. They showed me deep love and care too. They possess everything I need in a woman. So I couldn’t resist marrying them both at a time” he added.

In other words, if you didn't marry them together, you would have committed adultery with one of them.
Seems reasonable to me.
Most times people don't think far into the situation before condemning, but God never commanded that men must marry one wife.
Such a command does not exist in the Bible.
So, just make sure to stick to your two wives.


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By Adenosine (M)January 03, 2017, 10:08:13 AM
Having equal degree of love with two of them is a lie, is not possible. You can't be serving two masters and not love one more than the other. They even ask him whether he will marry another woman, he said he can't predict the future which really means this man can't resist himself from woman. How sure are those women that he doesn't have another woman  outside.


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By Adenosine (M)January 03, 2017, 10:16:33 AM
In other words, if you didn't marry them together, you would have committed adultery with one of them.
Seems reasonable to me.
Most times people don't think far into the situation before condemning, but God never commanded that men must marry one wife.
Such a command does not exist in the Bible.
So, just make sure to stick to your two wives.
Yes, Bible didn't specify that we should marry one wife but the Bible commanded it for anybody to be a deacon in a church. And understand that being a deacon is not that you are taking up a ministry work but the way to make you more relevant in the presence of God in the Holy way you have chosen. Everybody can be a deacon if you walk upright with God. I think a command for one is a command for all but it depends on what you believe in.


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By GideonJanuary 03, 2017, 10:49:46 AM
In other words, if you didn't marry them together, you would have committed adultery with one of them.
Seems reasonable to me.
Most times people don't think far into the situation before condemning, but God never commanded that men must marry one wife.
Such a command does not exist in the Bible.
So, just make sure to stick to your two wives.

Even though it was not expressly stated that you should marry more than one wife, there is undeniable proof that God intends it to be one man one wife... He created Eve (one woman) for Adam and not two Eve's... So anyone that decides to marry two women at once is on his own and not following the  principle stated at Genesis chap 2:23-25..


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By dayan (M)January 03, 2017, 10:50:11 AM
Yes, Bible didn't specify that we should marry one wife but the Bible commanded it for anybody to be a deacon in a church. And understand that being a deacon is not that you are taking up a ministry work but the way to make you more relevant in the presence of God in the Holy way you have chosen. Everybody can be a deacon if you walk upright with God. I think a command for one is a command for all but it depends on what you believe in.

It is not true that one must be a "deacon" to walk upright with God.
This type of reasoning is why Pentecostal churches these days never win souls or transform societies as Jesus commanded "to be the salt of the earth". Being a deacon is by choice, not by compulsion, and in fact a whole lot of people are heaven-bound without even ever being to a church (the current definition which is a building of worship) -Jesus himself (I prefer his words over Paul's because Paul was a Roman citizen and carried Roman culture in his mind even as a disciple) said that many on that day will be asked to enter heaven and they would wonder what they did to merit heaven. So, being a deacon is a Paul's invention and not a Jesus' or God's command.
The only command Jesus gave was that humans love one another as he loves humans (the true church) which he demonstrated by his death on the cross.


Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By dayan (M)January 03, 2017, 11:01:27 AM
Even though it was not expressly stated that you should marry more than one wife, there is undeniable proof that God intends it to be one man one wife... He created Eve (one woman) for Adam and not two Eve's... So anyone that decides to marry two women at once is on his own and not following the  principle stated at Genesis chap 2:23-25..

This is again not a proof that God COMMANDS it.
Every animal created by God, he created male and female.
And when the floods came during the time of Noah, he saved them one male one female.
But that does not prove commanded monogamy.
God expressly states his laws and the most complete of that law is the 10 commandments.

A quick disclaimer at this point: I am only expressing an opinion which comes from years of researching this issue. It does not mean that I would practice it myself.




Re: Nigerian man who married two women at once gives his reasons

By dayan (M)January 03, 2017, 11:02:14 AM
Whenever this issue comes up, this line of reasoning is often presented but it really doesn't answer the question why there are higher rates of divorce and adultery in countries that practice strict monogamy. I wouldn't get involved in it, but that doesn't mean that I must condemn a practice that in fact helps to reduce adultery in society.
I have done a thorough Biblical research on it over many years because I was really bothered by the fact that people who claim to practice strict monogamy actually practice SERIAL MONOGAMY -marrying up to 4 -8 wives serially over their life spans.
Most of the time, these men get involved in "affairs" for some years, and then divorce their wives to marry their next woman.
To me, the law that God commanded his followers expressively forbade ADULTERY, and any person  who marries a divorced woman is only committing adultery with her.


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