img Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum - I no longer find my wife sexually attractive – have we become too alike?
Welcome, Guest.
Did you miss your activation email?

Date: April 03, 2020, 05:57:43 PM

Contact
imgimgimg

I no longer find my wife sexually attractive – have we become too alike? : Family : Nigerialog.com - Nigeria's Premier Online Forum

102 views

I no longer find my wife sexually attractive – have we become too alike?

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 11, 2020, 08:02:44 AM
We were all over each other when we dated, but in marriage we have merged our lives to the extent that I don’t really have a social life


couple.jpg



Question:
After only five years of marriage, I am finding it hard to be sexually attracted to my wife. When we were dating, we were all over each other, but a lot has changed since we got married. Other than our sex life, we have a very good relationship. That said, my views on the world and my personality are different because of her influence. I strongly believe this is for the better, as she is a very sweet and caring person, but could it explain the change in sexual attraction? I feel as though we are too cosy and have become very alike. I spend most of my time alone and talk only to her; I don’t really have a social life. I don’t know how to fix this, but it is killing me. I feel like less of a man and I feel bad when I am attracted to other women or watch pornography.




Answer Offered:
You and your wife have probably become too familial for optimum sex. Also, perhaps you are harbouring resentment about some of the changes in you that have occurred due to her influence, which could significantly affect your libido. You may need to reclaim your individuality to an extent; in doing so, you will both feel a resurgence of libido. Mutual attraction requires that each partner views the other as being separate from him or herself; if you always know what each other is thinking, the thrill and challenge of the other’s mystery is absent and the spark dies. Choose some different pastimes from your partner – and seek a different friend or two. Stand your ground in an argument. Express your true feelings with respect and clarity and don’t allow them to be dismissed. Paradoxically, good sex will return when you are more emotionally and intellectually separate.

•Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.


Source

Re: I no longer find my wife sexually attractive – have we become too alike?

By: dayan (M) |Time : March 11, 2020, 08:05:50 AM
Quote
Mutual attraction requires that each partner views the other as being separate from him or herself; if you always know what each other is thinking, the thrill and challenge of the other’s mystery is absent and the spark dies.

This has CONSISTENTLY been my opinion on such problems.
If the "experts" are now saying the same thing, it means that my opinions are expert level opinions! 8)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic. Reply

web site traffic statistics