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Hubby has turned into a fat slob

By: dayan (M) |Time : December 18, 2018, 09:52:59 PM
Dear Bunmi,

I got married over 12 years ago to a man who was on the plump side. I didn’t mind this too much as I wasn’t slim either. Unfortunately, he’s piled on a lot of weight since we got married and I hate the way he looks.

I’m not nasty to him about his weight because this upsets him but as a wife, I think it’s my duty to be honest with him.

He tells me he’s trying to lose weight but I haven’t seen any change. His weight has put me off love-making with him-he’s all fat and no muscles.

He snaps at me that I’m the one with the problem as the world is full of big, fat men like him who are happily married.

My husband is an attractive man. If he shows some care about his weight and diets, he would look real good. If he is happy to be fat, I think the best thing is to leave to find myself a new partner.

Even though he’s a good dad to our children, he owes it to us to slim down – surely losing weight is better than losing a family?

Tessy, by e-mail.

Dear Tessy,

Your demand on your husband is outrageous, cruel and ridiculous. How dare you threaten the happiness of your whole family because your husband is unwilling or unable to lose weight?

You were on the plump size once, according to you. Is that why you’re now trying to boost your ego by demanding that a husband who’s always been large becomes slim? Of course, he’s sensed correctly that this problem lies with you and not him.

Tell him what you’ve told me that he’s handsome and a good father and that he deserves to be loved.

A caring woman can have a big influence on her husband’s health, weight and happiness.

Serve him only healthy meals and reduce the portions he normally eats.

Whenever he makes an effort, praise him instead of blackmailing and criticising him. Believe me, you’d soon discover that the grass is not really greener after you’d left.

Source: Vanguard

Re: Hubby has turned into a fat slob

By: dayan (M) |Time : December 18, 2018, 10:06:52 PM
Great advice Bunmi, but ...

The man still has to listen to his wife because she issued an honest threat.

If he is happy to be fat, I think the best thing is to leave to find myself a new partner.

Yes, some are happy to be fat. There are A LOT of fat couples out there. One couple I know has their house full of food and snacks. I had to tell them to get rid of the soda drinks...but I digress...
In this couple's case, the wife is not happy about it and she doesn't seem like she would ever be sexually attracted to a fat man - a "fat slob".

She is kind and honest enough to alert the man ahead of time that she is about to start sleeping outside or get a divorce. These things are not emotional stuff. It may well be that the couple shouldn't have married in the first place (which is my own assessment of the situation - I think they are incompatible), so telling this woman to be tolerant of her determinedly fat husband won't cut it. He has to lose weight if he wants to keep this woman... assuming she is worth keeping. If she is not worth keeping, he should ignore her threats and eat his heart out.
But he should also remember that obesity can lead to death.
A word is enough for the wise.

Re: Hubby has turned into a fat slob

By: Ramjoe (M) |Time : December 19, 2018, 05:32:55 AM
Tessy should calm down and let her husband eat. Afterall she didn't marry him a skeleton, being plump before marriage shows high tendency to be "fat" when married.

Accolades to those Nigerian daddies who have stuck with their wives and children despite having their Miss World become the naughty professor under their roofs.

Tessy can change him, but I think she's going the wrong way issuing threats like that. In fact, the husband should eat anything he wants and eat her too if she keeps complaining.  :-

Re: Hubby has turned into a fat slob

By: alagbe003 (M) |Time : December 19, 2018, 11:53:28 AM
It is easier to gain weight than lose weight. It is also hard to lose weight without any health complications. Prevention is better than cure, eat healthy food, stop consumption of Junks. Their marriage can be saved by both parties reaching compromise, the man should be willing to lose weight but the lady should give him time.

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