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Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By dayan (M)December 05, 2016, 05:06:24 AM
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My husband of two years is very sociable and has many close friends that we meet up with. But he also has a clingy friend who comes to our home every Friday and stays until Sunday afternoon. I am often lying around in very little clothes or feeding our baby.

ONE MORNING HE BUMPED INTO ME N*KED IN THE BATHROOM.
I FEEL AS THOUGH MY PRIVACY IS BEING INVADED. MY HUSBAND JUST EXPECTS ME TO CHAT TO HIM BUT I AM GETTING ANGRY AND WE END UP HAVING HUGE FIGHTS. IF I BLAME MY HUSBAND, HIS FRIEND JUMPS IN AND TICKS ME OFF… EVEN ON OUR FIRST ANNIVERSARY SUPPER THIS MAN TURNED UP AT THE RESTAURANT AND JOINED US FOR COFFEE. MY HUSBAND PROMISES TO TALK TO HIM BUT NOTHING HAS CHANGED.

HE CALLS MY HUSBAND EVERY DAY. THIS MAN IS NICE AND HE LOVES OUR DAUGHTER, BUT I FEEL AS IF I AM IN COMPETITION WITH HIM FOR MY HUSBAND’S ATTENTION. HOW CAN I STOP HIM?

– A married lady in Lagos sent this to Aunty Julie. Her reply below:

NEITHER YOUR HUSBAND NOR HIS FRIEND ARE BEING FAIR TO YOU. TO USE PRINCESS DIANA’S MUCH QUOTED PHRASE, THERE ARE THREE OF US IN THIS MARRIAGE. NO WIFE WOULD WANT ANOTHER MAN THERE ALL WEEKEND, LEAVING HER LITTLE TIME TO BE WITH HER HUSBAND. IT IS DIFFICULT ENOUGH TO FIND TIME TO JUST BE A COUPLE WHEN THERE IS A NEW BABY, LET ALONE WHEN THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE THERE ALL THE TIME. SO TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ONCE MORE AND ASK HIM TO TELL HIS FRIEND THAT YOU WANT MORE TIME AS A COUPLE. IT WOULD BE FINE IF CAME FOR SUPPER SOMETIMES, BUT NOT NEARLY SO FREQUENTLY.
IF YOUR HUSBAND DOES NOTHING THEN YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIS FRIEND YOURSELF. EXPLAIN THAT YOU LIKE HIM BUT YOU WANT MORE TIME AS A COUPLE. YOU COULD OFFER TO FIND HIM A GIRLFRIEND TO KEEP HIM OCCUPIED.

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Re: Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By dayan (M)December 05, 2016, 05:10:05 AM
A very difficult, but simply problem to solve.
On the surface it might seem easy, but you need to sit down with your husband ALONE -somewhere where his friend would not be there, and then ASK HIM TO TELL YOU WHAT HE REALLY IS UP TO.
You might be surprised by his answer.
The friend is there simply because your husband invited him in.

IMHO, it could be a mistake to talk to this man or offer him help to get a girlfriend because you would be making this your problem, which it should not be.
I think that your husband is the key.

Re: Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By Adenosine (M)December 05, 2016, 05:44:34 AM
From my own point of view the fault comes from the husband, that his friend has become third party in that house. He brought the friend into thrir family and he as well shpuld be able to talk to him for him to stay from his family because the privacy of his wife is not guarantee any longer.


Re: Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By GideonDecember 05, 2016, 11:23:05 PM
The solution of the matter rests with the husband... He should ask his friend to reduce his visitations... What kind of friend does that?.... Don't he has better things to do than visit married people?... The wife should not nag but discus with the husband.. If husband refuses to listen and friend still come.. Wife should tell his parents.


Re: Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By princepointDecember 06, 2016, 12:04:24 AM
bumped into you in the bathroom  did you not lock the door ?????????????????


Re: Help! My husband’s friend comes around the house too often, once saw me naked

By naijarian (F)December 16, 2016, 03:44:59 PM
bumped into you in the bathroom  did you not lock the door ?????????????????
that's the point. Why should she have to lock bathroom doors in her own home?

Well, happened to a friend of mine. I told my friend that hubby maybe bi sexual ooo ;D
Cos
The friend was everywhere!!! Then I started being everywhere too so her husband complained that I was becoming too frequent; problem solved!! To the point that I'd invite myself to the movies and gbam!! His friend I'll meet thee too that he also started acting up, the clingy friend I mean. Complained about me  :D imagine oooo! Anyway I too showed up quite often and soon us friends exed ourselves unless we had to visit.


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